By Anonymous - 13/08/2015 04:39 - United States - Mount Pleasant

Today, I realized I apologize too often as I said I was sorry to my boyfriend as he broke up with me. I apologized for being sad and making him feel bad. FML
I agree, your life sucks 26 475
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Same thing different taste

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bnbhimp 10

Every one in a while you Just need to say f**k off.

You got it. Catch yourself apologising for stuff that isn't your fault that's someone else's, just say nah f that, I'm not sorry at all! and f you for making me feel that way!

I have the same problem. I'm working on it. I think I started getting better when I realized that I said I'm sorry to my husband (now ex) because one of his girlfriends broke up with him and he was devastated

Badkarma4u 17

I dated a girl like that. I told her to stop concentrating on saying she's sorry and concentrate on not ******* up in the first place. She used "I'm sorry" as an excuse to be thoughtless. When you constantly throw I'm sorrys out. They eventually become meaningless. Say what you mean, mean what you say. When you feel the need to just blurt out an "Im sorry." Stop, take a second, think what you really want to say, then say that. Sometimes it wont be an apology. Most people would rather hear how you really feel about something over a canned response. You'll get more respect from others and yourself.

Goblin182 26

The first part was a little harsh, but I do agree with the last part. Instead of just blurting out an "I'm sorry" think about did you do something to apologize for.

Well, have you apologize for apologizing yet?

Apologize for making him break up with you

You are welcome to Canada, your maple syrup and pet bever awaits you!

You deserve better. You deserve someone who doesn't make you feel like you need to apologise, someone who makes you feel so good about yourself that you have the confidence to stop saying sorry for nothing. Good luck, and be proud of who you are.

Just be sorry for a couple other things, like kicking him in the balls, and telling him off. Idk, good luck with your apologetic ways

That constant apologizing and lack of self worth could well be the real reason for breaking up. Who on Earth wants a partner so insecure.

That's unfair. If someone is insecure they need support, not alienation.

No, not fair at all. But as you can see this is what happens. I don't know what the cure is, a therapy or can it be worked out on your own?

I meant that it is unfair of you to make such a negative comment. This does not happen all the time, and can't be solved by telling people that they will never get a partner. It can be solved but supporting the people around you rather than criticising them.

My gf used to do the same thing. A lot of it was a result of guys in previous relationships beating her down emotionally and eroding her self worth. Does take some tough love. Had to show her that most of the time it's not her fault and she's got nothing to be sorry for. A couple years in and now it's a non-issue

I have the same problem OP. It gets really ******* annoying for me to always go right to that, but when I feel at fault and depressed/sad that's just the words I go to because I feel so bad about a situation or myself. I have aplogized for being sorry after saying I'm sorry. I've been yelled at for that and I'm trying to learn how not to say that at all, but it is hard. I've been getting better but I do slip into the old habit occasionally. It's just takes a while to not use it all the time, but it does take time and a partner/friend/family that is willing to help give you a little boost to drop an annoying habit.