By outthelabyrynth - 17/03/2014 19:41 - Netherlands - Egelshoek

Today, I realized I'm so scared of my manager that I don't even dare to quit my job. The same job I want to quit exactly because I'm so scared of her. FML
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outthelabyrynth 21

First things first: I'm a girl, and I'm not a prostitute. (That would pay much better, though) I work at a restaurant with several managers who are all quite nice, but she's the boss of the whole restaurant so she's in charge of everything. Now the thing is, she's quite nice to everyone... Except to me. I don't know what she has against me, but working with her is like getting a constant shitstorm over you. Always mean comments, giving me the worst tasks, and no matter how I improve myself, it's never good enough. She keeps telling me I'm too stupid to work there (which I'm not, I have higher qualifications than everyone there, but I need the money to save up for college) and when other people make a mistake, she blames me for it. At this restaurant, when you want to quit, you have to tell her personally. The worst she can do is indeed yell at me. I'm not a shy person, but when people get angry at me or start yelling, I get really quiet and submissive and I feel like shit. I'll probably search for another job first, and then make up a believable story for why I want to quit, so she can't get too mad at me. Thanks for all the support and I'll do my best to stand up!

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Top comments

colton_colton 49

Just quit and then RUN. You can make it OP :)

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Wizardo 33

Unless you work for a bounty hunting firm, firm up and quit. Being so scared at work is hardly worth it.

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Comments

PocketApocalypse 7

Hi. I have worked in the restaurant industry for 20 years and your fml has me concerned for you. What you are experiencing is called workplace bullying and in some areas is illegal. Regardless, you have rights. It has happened to me multiple times, and yes, I react the exact same way you do, with the getting quiet and feeling terrible. So, my advice to you is first, if you have another job, great, but if you HAVE to quit, right now, (which I have done), you can just blow the shift, and either have someone call in for you, or just let your voicemail pick up the phone. You don't actually have to quit in person, but you will most likely have to pick up your final papers in person, so definitely bring someone with you, my recommendation is someone over the age of 50 (I would bring my 60yr old mother in law who looked like a sweet old grandma but happened to be a paralegal). If she refuses to do anything for your final paycheck, usually there is a government agency that will get it for you. What I had to do to quit my last job, because of the crippling anxiety, and the fake nice my boss used to play, I went to the doctor and got a medical note for anxiety, which meant I had to take a leave of absence immediately, and of course I never went back. Plus the medical note enabled me to collect employment insurance. Because of workplace bullying, I can no longer work in the industry I supported for 20 years, and have to start over from scratch. To anyone who reads this: workplace bullying is REAL, and in some situations, is worse than the stuff you hear about at school. You have rights.

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Taurus_ChicKa 36

You should report that. If your boss is scaring you to the point that you're afraid to even quit, yet you want to quit because she scares you, that sounds like a very hostile work environment. I strongly encourage you to go over her head and report it.

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RabbitOfAurora 28

Super easy way to handle this OP. Simply stop gurning up to work. If she calls to ask where you are laugh and be like "Oh, didn't I tell you? I quit" and hang up. Problem solved!

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sunshineb81 16

Find another job first. Then submit a written notice. Or just call and quit. Either way you need to leave.

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blewangel 2

Just stop going she will get the hint.

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snozzberries 6

I haven't read all the comments yet so I'm not sure if anyone else mentioned this but... You shouldn't have to have a verbal conversation with the manager. In my state at least, the legal requirement is that you provide *written* notice to your manager. You can write a letter stating your intent and deliver it to her desk. I'd also deliver a copy to either the owner or another manager so that she can't claim she didn't get it. Good luck OP!

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roshae_16 11

Just stop going....

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kellyem2 20

Maybe submit your intention to quit in writing? Normally that's not the best way, but if this is a real problem then this seems like a better option than putting up with being harassed or just walking out the door. And frankly, if it's as bad as you say you should report her to her superiors (if she has any). Chances are you aren't the first and won't be the last to deal with this kind of behavior and somebody should know about it.

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