By openended - 21/11/2014 16:56 - United States - Mission Viejo

Today, I realized that having an open relationship isn't all that great, when my boyfriend hooked up with his ex and dumped me for her. FML
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MrConcise 34

A relationship is like a circle. When a circle is open, it's not a circle anymore.

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DocBastard 38

Open relationships are like getting drunk on a Tuesday - it may seems like a strange idea at first, but then it starts to seem like a great idea, then it gets better and better and better until at the end it ******* sucks and you're left drooling and crying on the toilet.

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lawnguy 11

Should have seen something like coming. ..You deserve it for sure!

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Sourpatch2010 7

Your dumb for having a open relationship anyways.

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ShutUp007 22

No offense... But you kinda had it coming for you. I mean, an open relationship? That's like being friends with benefits. It barely ever, if at all, works out. find a guy who'll only WANT to date you. Then you'll have something.

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captainsmegma 12

Why are there so many dumb ***** out there who have an open relationship and then go boo hoo when the other person gets a good *******. Suck it up if you want to **** other guys.

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syed121417 22

I'm going to say FML for this one because you and your boyfriend knew that having an open relationship does not mean leaving you in anyway. I personally see nothing wrong with free love as long as you know who you are truly emotionally attached to, you are honest with them and you aren't hurting them in the process. With an open relationship, you aren't stupid enough to do something of that sort, so he's the one that needs the growing up. You'll find someone better OP. For those saying that OP deserved it, perhaps that would float if he had not dumped OP.

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syed121417 22

Also, no, open relationships are not like being friends with benefits. Open relationship: when you are in a relationship, including the labels of bf/gf, are emotionally attached with one person and the only thing different from a regular relationship is that you can sleep with whomever you want just so as you are honest and know that you love that person enough to sleep with some one else but still know you are still his girlfriend, which is tough. Friends with benefits-you guys are friends, no romantic feeling and you sometimes have sex with no strings attached, meaning no emotional attachment. Do people see the difference?

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luststarrr 22

Thank you! Far more eloquent than I would have been, too. :)

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Axel5238 29

While what you say is true, most only ask for one as an excuse to fool around and not feel bad, that's why the friends with benefits sentiment. There are times when it does usually it's convenient due to traveling or distance outside of oddly specific circumstances it doesn't work and the potential for something to go wrong is usually worse. It's like dating your friend or co worker yes it can go well, but that isn't average.

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luststarrr 22

It's a very subjective judgement call, the success or failure of a relationship, especially when done by a bystander. Bear in mind that most open relationships that come to light do so due to a spectacular failure, whereas many operate successfully & clandestinely with barely a ripple. I know many couples, in addition to my partner & I, who will testify to their relationship's success, & the contrast with their failed monogamous experiences.

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Axel5238 29

It is possible to have it work however, more often than not it is used as way for people to sleep around. It's not often that someone sugests an open relationship and they are being honest and open about their reasons. They do work, but requires specific guidelines. Lots that do have one have a life style due to work, school and other circumstances where anything else usually isn't possible. Also popular in bdsm communities. It doesn't change the fact most people suggesting it aren't doing so with honest intentions and being serious about it. That is why most don't take it seriously.

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_Bair_K_ 11

"Today, I jumped into pool full of sharks.. and I got bitten! No one could have expected it! FML"

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kstephens2326 15

uh duh this happened...,you basically gave him the okay to cheat. Why even be in the relationship? YDI

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luststarrr 22

Sorry, that's not the case. Cheating = dishonesty, something which is not part of a true open relationship.

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sweetnsourrr 11

true open relationship? what's true about that? XD

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luststarrr 22

Everyone involved must be truthful, & ensure that they are all aware where they stand, something which was clearly missing in OP's case, If everyone knows what's going on & there's no dishonesty, it's not cheating, is it?

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lalaney 14

People have this stupid idea that open relationships are lawless. On the contrary, they have lots of rules! Don't sleep with my friends or coworkers, don't spend the night with anyone, put my needs first as the primary, etc. Those are examples of what people in open relationships agree on in order for them to feel comfortable in the arrangement. I also see people that have veto power over situations, i.e., "I'm feeling insecure and I would like you to refrain from sleeping with anyone else until we reconnect and reestablish our relationship". See, lasting relationships of all kinds are about good communication and respecting of boundaries. Just because their boundaries are different than yours, doesn't mean they don't exist.

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luc887_fml 28

I agree with #80. Lots of people only see the sexual side of it and consider people in open relationships are sex addicts who'll sleep with anyone but I don't see why those (such as myself) who don't have sex with lots and lots of people when they're single would change their usual behaviour just because they started an open relationship...

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