You sound entitled, selfish and annoying saying you would feel left out if your, just recent, step-kids wouldn't include you on Mother's Day, it's also a bit of an insult to your own son, who's obviously there to celebrate it with you. They have a mother who raised them from birth, they're not obligated to give/say anything to you that day, the same as OP with their step-dad. My dad and step-mam married when I was 4, I didn't give her cards, presents or even acknowledge her on Mother's Day until I was 13 or 14 - I still don't see her as a mother figure, because I have a mam, but she's a good person, who has done a lot for me and she supports me.

With kids that young it's different because you are each helping raise each other's children 50% of the time and really acting as parents. OP is 25 years old, and doesn't live at home (as she said in an earlier comment), and only seems to see her step dad every once in awhile. So it's definitely understandable on her part as he hasn't had to be a parent figure to her. That being said I think it's great you and your husband make sure each of you are included on those days :)

Wow, that was incredibly judgemental for not knowing me or my situation. To clarify, I am very close with my step kids and they actually call me mom. Secondly, I know it's on the norm but my husband and I are close with his ex and her new husband (we are even godparents to their baby). Their mom and I hang out as friends and get together to work on co-parenting issues, ways to help the kids, and work out schedules. Also, my son is very close to his stepmother, which I'm thrilled about, because she's his mom 50% of the time. I was suppose to have my son all of mother's day but I split my day and let her and my ex have my son in the evening so she could enjoy mother's day with my son (they don't have any other children) I even posted a message to her on fb on Mothers day thanking her for being such a great mom to my son. There's no "entitlement" or "selfishness"..... It's all of us working together to be parents to these great kids.

Honestly my issue is why you making it sound like you made them include you and your son include your husband. I consider my stepmom another mom and call her such- but /I/ decided to call her such and to celebrate her on Mother's Day. Forcing a child to celebrate someone like that seems a bit controlling, no? It's meant to show love and appreciation, not to force it. Honestly if I was ever FORCED to celebrate my stepmom for Mother's Day I probably wouldn't want to and might hold negative feelings toward her and whoever was making me.

I'm not sure what I said that made it sound like it was "forced", that was not how it was or my intent. All I meant was that because I'm a big part in my step kids life and my husband is in my son's, and my son's step mom is in his life.. We all made sure no one was left out because regardless of blood we are all parents. I don't know how something I meant to be sweet and trying to show that it doesn't always have to be a battle and animosity between step parents and bio parents turned into people getting upset with me.

I understood your comment same as #64 and it's because of that part - "He had his kids include me in Mother's day and I made sure my son included him in Father's day." It looks like it's not decision made by kids.

I'm not upset with you, I'm just pointing out if that's what happened it's kinda wrong. If that's not how it is, great! Honestly it'd be very nice if split families could be like that often. But sadly I have heard of parents trying to force children to see a partner as a parent rather than let their relationship naturally develop. If everyone loved the idea then I'm glad it worked out like that.

Exactly #72, I also found the fact she said she'd feel "left out" if the other kids didn't include her touched a nerve with me - If my own mother was seeing someone and said that about her partner's kid(s), if they had any, I'd call her a selfish, entitled idiot and be very offended because obviously my, and my sister's, efforts to give her a nice Mother's Day meant jackshit if she wanted/expected someone else's (who she didn't give birth too) attention... If I was seeing someone with a child, I wouldn't try to be a mother to them at any stage, regardless if me and their parent were going out a month or 30 years, I'd just be a friend to them. It's none our business what this lady does, of course, but we're giving our 2 cents since she did post about it.