By chinaski7628 - 24/09/2013 22:00 - United States - Glendale

Today, I sent a student to the dean for trying to smoke pot in my class. His mother called to complain that I publicly humiliated her son. FML
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chinaski7628 32

This is my FML and I never realized it got published until I came across it under the random section. I thought I'd fill in the details because I think about this kid a lot. The student in question was on probation from two previous drug charges. He was a mess-- always drunk or high and everything he did was a cry for help (tagging, fighting, truancy). I'd had a meeting with his mother once already about him failing my class due to poor attendance. She accused me of lying (even though he told her he always ditched my class). He even admitted to me that he picked my class to smoke in because he wanted to get caught and he knew I would turn him in. It actually wasn't this incident that got him expelled-- a week or so later he punched his probation officer and after that I have no idea what happened to him. I don't totally blame him-- he was only 15, after all. And it was hard to see beyond the drugs and bad decisions, but he had brains and was a good artist-- he had potential. If he had had a better mother maybe he might have had a chance. Her denial damaged him considerably. I don't mind the troubled and damaged kids, but it's the parents who made them that way I have no patience for and that make my job difficult. This actually happened three years ago, so I can only hope he's pulled himself together. I know many people that have had similar rough starts to life and have made it out ok.

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badluckalex 23

I love teachers like you.

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Welshite 39

He'll be more than publicly humiliated when he's suspended for drug use on school property.

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TogeBara 12

The parent and her offspring are both stupid. It must be genetic.

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lsu49 2

That's why you should teach at a private school

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chinaski7628 32

I've seen much worse at private schools. And the parents at private schools are in much deeper denial.

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z1steelersfan 9

Parents are so stupid these days thinking they can defend any stupid thing their kids do. Wtf pull out the belt every once in a while.

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chinaski7628 32

This is my FML and I never realized it got published until I came across it under the random section. I thought I'd fill in the details because I think about this kid a lot. The student in question was on probation from two previous drug charges. He was a mess-- always drunk or high and everything he did was a cry for help (tagging, fighting, truancy). I'd had a meeting with his mother once already about him failing my class due to poor attendance. She accused me of lying (even though he told her he always ditched my class). He even admitted to me that he picked my class to smoke in because he wanted to get caught and he knew I would turn him in. It actually wasn't this incident that got him expelled-- a week or so later he punched his probation officer and after that I have no idea what happened to him. I don't totally blame him-- he was only 15, after all. And it was hard to see beyond the drugs and bad decisions, but he had brains and was a good artist-- he had potential. If he had had a better mother maybe he might have had a chance. Her denial damaged him considerably. I don't mind the troubled and damaged kids, but it's the parents who made them that way I have no patience for and that make my job difficult. This actually happened three years ago, so I can only hope he's pulled himself together. I know many people that have had similar rough starts to life and have made it out ok.

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MrsPegg 45

That is incredibly sad! Like you said, hopefully he will learn and make something of himself. Theres always hope.

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jellitonoctopus 19

It's heartbreaking that some parents handicap their kids by fighting those who are able to help their child.

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badluckalex 23

I love teachers like you.

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yeti37 16

From one teacher to another, hang in there brotha!

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Rayth 19

The world needs more teachers like you.

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Lsidak715 8

Are you a teacher at the Compton high school?

trulypar 34

The sad reality for a child with a parent in denial is that they fall into the system, and unless they find someone to help them turn around and be a mentor to them they can get lost. At this point, this boy is 18 and the behaviors he was displaying at 15 will seriously impact his freedom now. I pray he found that needed mentor.

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bobbyguy 17

If I was a teacher and that happened to me I would probably want to punch the mother in the face. That mother sounds like a brat.

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toesparkle 13

Some people have no business having children.

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fivetimeslonger 24

Don't ever stop touching other peoples lives, we need more people like you as teachers.

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ThaReaper319 19

This pains me. It really does. I'm in class with some of these kinds of kids. Some of them have been abused and suffer from depression. It really is sad.

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Bcfrmkc816 17

Well said and I do hope that more parents aren't so busy both working that they let the kids raise themselves this what happens.

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bealy 7

You are really great teacher we need more teachers like you.

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fantasyworld 37

I feel bad for him. I hope he cuts ties with her.

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slimblack 26

That's sad. I hope he turns his life around.

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ItsATwinThing 9

I disagree when you say it's the parents fault. Maybe in some cases but not all, I have three other siblings and only one of them is into drugs, I my sister and youngest brother have never touched anything like pot. In this case it's to do with my brother's friends not my parents. Plus many young people are so susceptible to peer pressure that, that is why some do drugs, drink and smoke. Some may do it to rebel against their parents but it's not always the case.

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BSnapZ 21

#80 I think you may have replied to the wrong comment. Also, did you read the author's reply? Certainly sounds like the mother was at fault.

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chinaski7628 32

80-- I blame the mother for ignoring her son's cries for help. He wrote me a letter (that's where he said he picked my class because he wanted to get caught). He also said he had begged her to send him to rehab or boot camp and she told him he was imagining his problem. Nothing he did-- not even getting arrested-- got him help. So, yeah, I do blame the mother. Maybe not for his beginning to use drugs, but certainly for trying to ignore the damage it was doing to him.

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LaceyRenea753 14

That's so sad. But true I would have blamed the parents

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worldclassrager 39

Well you have is name and you could always check up on him online being now that he is 18...but that is a little creppy

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mottos 13

It would be good to actually see how that kid is doing right now, maybe he's changed now that he's older.

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ninety 25

Maybe. Probably not.

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SkyGuy32 17

Maybe he's worked his way up the ladder and started dealing.

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