I agree. The moment a women misses her period she should take a test first before worrying the crap out of her S/O. Yeah I understand she wanted to give a heads up just in case she was, but still, It's better to check and make sure if she is or not before possible pregnancy is brought up.

I completely disagree. Both parties had sex and both of them contributed the genetic material which is potentially producing a child. Why shouldn't they go through this together? I don't see it as selfishly worrying your partner, I see it as informing them of an issue and supporting each other whatever the outcome. I once had a very late period so quietly took a pregnancy test. After it came out negative, I told my boyfriend. His first response was "you should have told me." In retrospect, I wish I'd told him straightaway instead of dealing with it on my own. It wasn't just my burden to bear.

because don't get someone and yourself worked up for no reason? i've seen way too many cases of women who thought they were pregnant but just had a totally normal late period. if i personally tested or told my s.o. i might be pregnant on every late period, i would've freaked someone out many many times. furthermore, you're allowed to deal with your late period however you choose. whether a woman lets her partner know she's taking a pregnancy test is up to her. sorry your boyfriend guilted you into feeling bad about it, but that doesn't mean that you should or that other women should. OP should've waited or just tested to ease her mind before bringing up this "i might be" crap. better yet, have a CONVERSATION with your partner about his preference, how he'd react to an unexpected pregnancy and the emotions that come with false alarms so everyone is on the same page. i'm disappointed how out of touch women are with their own bodies and how little couples actually discuss these things.

That's not what I'm saying at all, #140. Of course people should have the choice. Most of these comments are acting like she did something wrong in telling him. Which I don't believe is right at all. If she wanted to tell him, then there's absolutely nothing wrong with that. Just like she could have kept it quiet if she preferred. And my bf did not guilt me into anything. I wanted to tell him but felt I couldn't and that it was my business to deal with. It was only afterwards that I realised I could have told him.

And how do you know they didn't? Birth control isn't fool proof.

But if contraceptives were MORE effective, they wouldn't have to take it so seriously.

When I had my kid, I thought of it more as a new beginning.

23 yo here. It sucks I'll miss out on some things in my 20s and I'm a single mom. Everyone is different but I can't say I regret anything at all. My kid is the shit. The most I regret is that I couldn't give my boy a better father. Considering he's a huge p-o-s. Even so, without him I wouldn't have my little man. So, that much I can accept.