Well apparently she was trying to communicate but it didn't work well...

They already tried communicating. He made it clear 1. He doesn't care 2. Is extremely insensitive 3. Is immature and childish 4. Isn't interested in working on their issues

Yeah, totally lol.

Def totes hilarrr.

I'm on pain medication long term (due to dying hip bones) and after taking one type of pill I'm chatty for about half an hour. When I'm trying to be serious and talk about issues my husband will ask "did you take a pill?". It's his way of saying I'm talking to much and shut the **** up. He's come out and said the words before so that's how I know what his question REALLY MEANS. Sorry OP, Feel your pain... FYL

She probably does this every day. Otherwise he wouldnt have felt a need to send a message with the headphones

Even if she does, the solution is to talk about it, figure it why she's struggling so much, and find ways of letting her get the feelings out which don't put it all on her bf - like a counselor or setting aside a specific Bad News Dump time so it doesn't spill over into the rest of their lives. Not to be a petty, passive aggressive, hurtful ass.

There are times when you just need to get this stuff off your shoulders and need a hug. If you want someone just being physically there and not even listening, you can better talk to a ******* cuddly toy.

If you don't want to listen to other people's problems, then I don't think a relationship is for you. You're supposed to be there for each other in that way, and bottling up issues is not healthy at all and it will doom your relationship if you won't let your partner talk to you. People often just want to someone to listen to them just vent, especially when that someone is an significant other whose supposed to love and care about their life. It's more than just being physically "there," it's showing you're interested in what they have to say. It's the same way we ask people about their day or how they're doing just to listen, it's to show we care.

Even if she does talk about her problems a lot, there's a more sensitive way of handling it. He could make suggestions. He could say that he's feeling a bit stressed and can't handle her issues at the moment. But going up to get earplugs is just mean, passive-aggressive bullshit that reveals him to be an insensitive boob.

You seem to always try to find a way to be against women..

I think it's more men are always "wrong" and "attacked" that now they are trying to stand up for themselves they are being "assholes"

If a woman did this to her SO, she would also be an asshole. The point isn't gender, it's being a prick.

Nope. that's what a THERAPIST is for.

Even if that's what a therapist is for (and, actually a therapist is for helping you treat whatever they specialize in treating) the BF is still an asshole for handling it the way he did. It would have been a minute worth of talking- if that- to say, "-OP's Name-, I understand you are upset but I don't feel like I can give you the advice or comfort you are looking for at this time, on this subject." Around 30 words, and he would have come across as being reasonable instead of as coming across as someone who is selfish and doesn't care about the person he is in a relationship with as much as he cares about being in a relationship.

Not the asshole in the post, that's for sure.