By punkchicka4 - 02/03/2015 23:37 - United States - Dayton

Today, I was demoted as a bridesmaid in a wedding because I dyed my hair, and didn't ask permission from the bride to do so. The bride is my sister. FML
I agree, your life sucks 30 135
You deserved it 5 529

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punkchicka4 13

Hey guys!! I'm surprised that this got published. I didn't dye my hair a weird color or anything. I went from a dark blond to just brunette because my sister actually suggested it months ago. She's been unbearable throughout this whole thing, but it's okay. I'm still going to the wedding, but as a guest now. :/

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Dalboz 26

well, I feel like we don't get the whole story here. I don't think she would have been mad if you dyed your hair black or blond. Rather dying it a preposterous colour like pink or green would make her mad. Which in that case, I'd have to agree with her. while it is your hair and your decision, when dying your hair with a bold colour (especially if you weren't seen with it before) takes attention from the people around you. It's her special day, and she'd like the attention to be focused on her and her husband. Plus if it isn't some crazy colour, I'm sure it's just nerves. If it was already all planned out, small changes like this tend to make the bride/groom nervous. It's really not uncommon and you should probably talk to her about it. I hope she'll calm down and you can make it up

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xxNIGHTxx_fml 17

I hope you two get that straightened out, OP. I don't see a problem unless you dyed it rainbow colored. then I'd be a bit concerned.

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Evokati 3

If it was my wedding I couldn't care less what the color of your hair is. Heck even if you Shaved your head. A wedding is about the union of two people that love each other. It's not a competition of who has the most attention. This isn't a runway show.

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capnbzarr 43

Thank gods somebody gets it. It's a little scary how many people are agreeing with the bridezilla.

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evilamoebaattack 20

i did that before my cousin sister's wedding. she didn't even know that i was going to be there... and i showed up with blue hair. she loved it! i don't know whether she's just amazingly chill or what though.

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SMHsohard 22

Showing up with blue hair as a guest is different than showing up with blue hair as a bridesmaid. Also, wouldn't your "cousin's sister" also be your cousin?

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BubbleGrunge 18

My brothers on my fathers side are not cousins to the cousins on my mothers side, so no, not a always 30.

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evilamoebaattack 20

umm, it was "cousin sister", not "cousin's sister". i uswd the term because "cousin" is gender neutral, and wouldn't have helped my comment much. and also, i think i should point out the cultural difference here - this is India. every sister is a bridesmaid, if you show up. we don't have weddings which are as formalised as Western ones. and my sister WAS amazingly chill about it - she commented on it later on and made the photographer take pictures of my hair specifically so that she'd remember.

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Nessco 36

Need more information to say if you deserved it or your life sux. Seriously, what colour did you dye it to cause that sort of reaction? Or is she just a bridezilla? How far out is the wedding?

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SkullsRules1 26

If its totally unexpected or a crazy colour. Then your sister is in her rights to freak out. Especially if shes planned the wedding to a T

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mdsummrsnght 17

Was it a crazy color?! Does it match or clash with the dress?! Either way- that's nutty, controlling behavior. It should be about you being there & supporting her, not your appearance!

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turdoblast 21

I wanted to dye my hair a dull purple but waited until my sisters wedding ended first because I didn't want to "ruin" the wedding pictures. might be a bit extreme to demote you, but you have to understand her PoV as well. more than likely she's not happy about demoting you either. if it's not too bright a colour, you could try using a one-wash non permanent dye in a dark brown over it?

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o76923 8

The whole point of a wedding is that it's the bride's special day. They get a pass on crazy and unreasonable demands to a degree. But not expecting someone to significantly alter their appearance really isn't that crazy. She wants to remember her special day in a specific way. Why take that from her?

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a1_z9 10

Bridesmaids are basically bridal accessories, that's why they get the coordinating dresses and spend much of the time lined up behind the bride. If you're not happy playing that role (assuming the colour is outlandish) maybe it's best you're not one!

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Goblin182 26

You don't have to spend hundreds of dollars on a ridiculous looking dress that you will never wear again. I call that a win.

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