Based on how it says "helping" would lead me to believe that her mom did it on purpose, not just by accidentally talking too much about OP.

OP here. I could understand not liking my boyfriend but my mom has only been in my life for the past four years. I personally think she has no right to butt into my life like that considering I'm an adult with my own house and I used to visit her twice, sometimes once a month. She met this girl at college a year ago. I personally think the girl turned my mom against me or my mom just liked her better than me but I don't know.

OP here. My name isn't April but I'm sure whoever you're talking about doesn't deserve for something like this to happen to her.

Since your name is not April, I am sorry this has happened to you. It really isn't something that people should do, especially to their child and friend. There can be lasting effects that aren't realized by the other party. On the other hand, April, the girl that this has happened to recently in Tennessee, was 'harrassed' on Facebook by her boyfriend's ex, with the help of her mother and friend for things like duct taping her 'step' son to the wall, keeping said 'step' son from his mother, blowing the smoke from her pipe in his face, going to the bar every other night while leaving a 10 year old in charge of 4 other kids, and rubbing the face of the child in his soiled underwear when accidents have happened. I personally wouldn't call what they were doing harassing, more like letting her friends know what kind of person she is behind closed doors, but April probably would see it as harrassment. Before it is suggested, the police have been called, but tight friendships in a small community tend to lean toward the wrong side. Again, I am sorry this has happened to you, you probably don't deserve it, and I hope you can move past it without it getting to you. I also hope your mom and friend realize hoe shitty they are for doing this to you.

OP here. She acted like she liked him and acted like she loved having us around so this whole thing was a pretty big shock to me. Definitely wasn't expecting her to choose that girl over me but what's done is done.

Lol y'all are tripping if you think this is bad advice, IJS. Or more likely, you just can't stand the fact I'm a Christian. Newsflash, tolerant college liberals: I'm allowed to be Christian. I'm not hurting anybody. And in America, we have a first amendment, constitutional right to free speech, expression (as long as its peaceful and doesnt break laws), and have the right to freedom of religion and religious expression- including on posts like these. If you don't like it, whatever, your call. But it's still sound advice, whether you like it or not

Or maybe nobody could be bothered reading that long ass post

People aren't down voting it cause you're Christian, the majority of the world is Christian, they're criticizing it because it's bad advice. No one deserves to be harassed and stalked no matter what they did, OP doesn't need to look at herself. The ex, friend and mother are completely at fault. We don't blame the victim, we blame the perpetrators 100%. They took things too far and caused this by being assholes, not the OP. The mother should also be treated equal in this situation, not get special treatment just cause she's her mother and get a pass and understanding. Sharing microscopic genetics and DNA suddenly makes you special? NO! You also included being non-religious in amongst being a bitch, cheater and having bad character. Making it seem like it's a bad thing and makes you a bad person, which it doesn't, and it definitely isn't something someone should be harrassed for. As for the first amendment, that gives your a right to freedom of speech and religion, yes. However, it only means the government can't punish you for what you say or believe. It does not mean you can't be criticized by other people for what you believe and say.

OP here. I'm not a Christian but I have tried to respect her. I've done a lot of bad things and I've tried to be a better person. There are things I still reallyyyy need to work on, I'll admit that. But my mom did this simply because she didn't love me. I don't love her either. But I was trying to. As for mental disorders, she has diagnosed bipolar disorder. As for her reasons other than not loving me ? It was mostly her desire to stay young, in the drama and to have more friends. I know this because she purposely used my last name when she started college so that people would ask her if she knew me. (My last name is uncommon and this was a local college filled with my old classmates) She made most of her friends that way. I tried to talk to her but she just kept lying to me and denying everything and then she just gave up. Also, I didn't sleep with him while they were still dating. I had zero interest in him until long after she and I stopped being friends. I even got her blessing. She said she was happy with her new fiancé. Apparently she was lying, lol

So if she doesn't share your beliefs, it's her fault?

Wow... That is one high, high horse you've got there. Yeah, people aren't downvoting you cus you're Christian. It's cus you gave OP some awful advise, blamed her for the abuse someone she trusted did to her, and then equated not being religious as a perfectly fine reason to ruin someone's life. You can't call someone a terrible person for having beliefs that aren't yours and then cry that other people need to respect YOUR beliefs. That's not how life works, cupcake. If you want other people to respect your beliefs, you need to respect theirs. Someone not being religious doesn't in any way justify her being tormented. Just as someone BEING religious doesn't in any way justify THEM being tormented. Like you said, it's not hurting anyone.

on what planet was this an okay comment to post