I don't think she deserved it. If my mom did something like that with me I'd probably throw something at her, or at even tell her to **** off. That was a severe lack of respect on the mother's part. Sure, it's her boyfriend, I'm sure he's fantasized plenty about what goes on inside those panties, but it still is not something you say in front of other people like that. Maybe it was her mom trying to point out the advantages of her doing her own laundry, maybe she was trying to make a joke, maybe she was just being a bitch. I dunno. 300 characters isn't a lot to tell a story. But whichever way you look at it, the crisis could have been averted by the girl doing her own laundry (and the way it was worded seems as if the mom does her laundry regularly, as she seems to be rather familiar with the state of her daughter's underwear). Now is it YDI because she's too lazy to do her own laundry? Maybe, maybe not. You could actually make a strong argument that it's the mom's fault her daughter doesn't do laundry. I started doing my own laundry when I was 7, because my mom was sick of having to untangle my underwear from my pants every single time (I would always pull them off so they'd end up inside-out with the underoos on the outside) even after repeatedly asking me not to undress myself that way, and finally taught me consequences and responsibilities. You don't want to undress nicely? Fine, now you can deal with it yourself. Point is, no child other than the ones in parent's sweetest fantasies just up and decides one day 'Hey, I'm gonna start doing my laundry today, because that's the grown-up thing to do! And I'm gonna mow the lawn and cook dinner and babysit my sister too!' The parents have to push them to do these things, to grow up. That's what parents are for. And maybe this was one such push. A rude, tactless, and completely bitchy push. But it could very well have worked. I know that if that had happened to me, she would never have touched my laundry again. Fortunately for me, I started doing chores before I hit puberty.