By SOTS4335 - 16/05/2015 22:16 - United States - Maumelle

Today, I went to a domestic violence counseling group. I was the only male there, and I explained that my girlfriend punches me in the face in front of my kids. Everyone started laughing. FML
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SOTS4335 5

OP here. Two of my sisters actually ended up beating the shit out of my now ex-girlfriend and moving me and my kids in with them. Kinda hard to defend yourself when you have muscular dystrophy and you spend most of your day in a wheelchair. But Thank GOD I'm done with that psycho-bitch. And **** those assholes at that therapy session.

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JuliaaNoelle 26

I hate double standards. Abuse is abuse no matter what gender you are. Sorry OP :/

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Doctor_W_H_O 18

I hate when people think males can't be absurd

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warhorse465 6

As a Domestic Violence Counselor I have seen just about everything. And more men are getting beat than ever before.

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Tannasgh 22

That really sucks. Those people are supposed to be your support. I would have a talk with the facilitator.

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pixie158 16

I understand how you feel. My best friend is going through the same thing and he doesn't think there is any place for him to get help and support because he is a guy.

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Tyrez 32

What I never understand about domestic abuse is why the abused never just leave after it starts...

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allydane 3

just because you leave does not mean they can't abuse you

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TheLadyOpal 30

Because a lot of the time it's really not that simple to "just leave". Abuse can take many forms, and abusers often manipulate their victims into staying with them and keeping quiet.

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catherinecas 30

A lot of times the victim still loves the abuser, plus abusers can be manipulative as hell swearing up and down that they'll change. Another component is emotional abuse which usually (not always) goes hand in hand with domestic abuse. So the victim loves the abuser and they are being told no one else loves them. Add society's views on victims and it's a cluster **** that is hard to escape from.

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fantasyworld 37

There's also emotional abuse, "if you leave I'll kill myself".

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Fairyjoshy 13

Sometimes it's because they're worried about a common third party (children, pets), but it can also be because of financial situations - not just income, but debt, too. Also the belief that "it's really not that bad" or "they'll be better" or "I can make this work if I just do <x>", or "I'm not trying hard enough" or... Basically, most of the time the abuser never actually needs to do *anything*, society already has us stuck.

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tranced_ 45

domestic violence counseling? what a bunch of sexists!

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kmw003 17

I'd be looking into going to a new group. abuse is abuse no matter who gives it out and who it happens to. I'm sorry they laughed, OP. double standards are very real and very frustrating!

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aintexas 7

If it was a legitimate counseling group, they'd know that abuse can happen to ANYONE. Find another group & don't let this deter you from seeking the help you need.

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TamedLotus 3

That's horrible! I am so sorry, a group like that should be a place of safety for any person regardless of physical form. Violence is violence and people are people, a disrespectful situation regardless of gender roles - which is a society created thought. I hope for you the strength to do what is right for yourself.

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cOOkiEzRgOOd 22

It may be difficult but you need to break ties with her and if she continues to pursue you look into an order of protection

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Eivana 37

They're just stupid and insecure, OP. They probably are desperate to find someone that they consider to be 'worse off'. I'm sorry that it was you they picked on.

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