By way2gosam - 26/05/2009 04:52 - United States
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Okay, I'm finally writing back to all 401 of your comments. Yes, I am a pregnant teenager- although, I can not see how that has any revelance to my post, pregnancy in teenagers happens quite often and I do not appreciate the judgemental/negative comments being thrown at me. It's pure slander. Yes, the father and I did have a fallout and I will be raising the baby on my own, with the help and support of my family and friends- not to mention he lives in the northern part of the state that I live in, which happens to be 4-5 hours away, even if he wanted to be here for the arrival of our child(which we are expecting to be a girl), he could not make it here on time. Therefore, my mother is my "go'to man", for lack of better words. I also notice you all are saying that he wouldn't want to hold my hand or watch the baby being born, I never said he would be in the delievery room- I simply asked him to keep my company during the scary hours of contractions that were yet to come, until my mother could arrive and take over. Yes, we had previously discussed it, and he had said that if need-be, he would be there. Unfortunately for me, he was speaking pure lies. As for the premature labor I did go into, they did stop it, and I am now on bed rest while taking a medicine called "terbutaline" every 4 hours in order to hold her until full term. (Which is also why I could write my FML, I didn't come home taking care of a baby, I came home on bed rest so I could have my baby at the correct time. I had nothing else to do but write my FML.) I do understand how confusing and misleading my post was, but keep in mind you only get a certain amount of letters to work with when writing your original FML, and by reading this I'm sure you've noticed that I could not elaborate thouroughly with 300 letters as a maximum. I do appreciate your opinions, even though I do not agree with all the statements that were made. Just wanted to explain since there were so many confused people.
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fjretsel
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You are going to have a kid and you still have a "crush"?? what are you......12??
Forget about him.
#92 ... people ask their Mum to be there for lots of things as you mentioned getting an award. However many woman want their mother's around when they go into labour. I was born 15 weeks prematurity which back then was rare. Even though my Dad who's married to my Mum was there, So was my grandmother. So a alot of woman want their mother's around when they need support. About teenagers being bad parents, that is really harsh, granted my Grandmother had my Mum at 16. She wasn't a good mother no but in a way she helped my mum so that when she became a parent she knew to be a better parent then my grandmother was. Besides OP could be a really good mother to that child. Better then some married couples are to their children. Also the bestfriend/crush might not feel comfortable with watching a woman go into labour. Everyone is different and has different values, morals and opinions so we should respect their choices and try not to be too judgemental and force our own opinions onto them.
PrimeStarscream
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I hope your baby is okay :( That was such a jerk move by that guy.
Ydi stop crushing on your best friend and be an adult and ask him to be more..
starburst7596
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I don't think you understand how Awkward that is to ask of a male.
So many things wrong here. First, where was the father? Second, if he isn't with you, then he's probably one of those jerks that has a one-night stand with a girl, knocks her up, then leaves her. Although perhaps he's in the army or something. But again, we don't know. Also, your best friend is a guy, and obviously not the father, so of course he isn't going to be there. I don't know, too many unanswered questions here to determine if you deserve it or not. You could have hooked up with a guy once and not used protection and gotten yourself in this situation. Or you could be married and your husband is overseas. Who knows?
usnwife
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Depending on how premature the labor was, they could have stopped it, but held her there. Or she could have an epidural. Or, she could have been like me and not had any extreme pain until the last hour. My labors were incredibly fast so I can't speak too much, I thought for most people early labor is more discomfort than intense pain, and it can last for a LONG time... I don't see anything unbelievable about this. (and yes, I ha my phone for both of my kids labor/delivery/recovery as well).
f_this_s_123
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Theres nothing wrong with wanting your best friend there, I was there when my best friend had her baby...FYL op.
husky22
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calling the father might be a good idea
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he probably knows you are into him so is avoiding being to close to you incase he gets the position of father figure to your child and is therefore stuck with you and the kid forever, he saved himself from having a fml
Is he the father? If he is, he should be more than a "crush". Sounds like a bad choice to me either way.