Yeah exactly what #393 said... ^ wow there are actually smart people on the Internet after all. I was just gonna add, "don't say apparently" because apparently you have a very unique situation so you can't expect it to be a normal one.

Boatiebanter, you are, in fact, a sexist. Yes, thank you for enlightening us to the fact that women and men are different because women can have babies. That does not make men any less responsible in the pregnancy situation. Yes, condoms break, but Plan B ("morning after pill") is only about 85% effective. Pregnancies can happen while on birth control, even if it is taken correctly. You say it's the woman's responsibility to make sure she doesn't get pregnant; well it's the man's responsibility to make sure she is taking those precautions before having casual sex with her and leaving. The fact of the matter is, pregnancy can happen, albeit rarely, even when every possible precaution is taken by both the man and the woman. This does NOT make the man any less liable for what happens. The fact that he can walk away just because he does not have the kid physically attached to him for 9 months does not mean that he can walk away and still be considered a decent person. The only situation in which the father really gets off without consequences is if the mother chooses not to tell him. If she does tell him, then he has a responsibility as a decent human being to be part of the process one way or another, be it supporting her in the event of an abortion or sticking around to help raise the child/give it up for adoption. If he chooses to not be involved in any way, then HE is responsible for ******* up that child's life, not the mother. Anyone who leads a "****** up" life due to a single parent household is often that way not because of the way the mother raised them, but rather due to an absentee father. Take it from someone who knows a LOT of people from households in which the father bailed early on. Almost all of them, regardless of their standard of living, adore and respect their mothers for raising them alone and resent their fathers for not being around. So you have no idea what you are talking about. If they amount to nothing because they are from a single parent household, well, they are in that situation because the father left.

I'd rather ignorance stop goin on... but #69 pretty much OWNED erybody who said all the crap bout her bein too young or a sleeping around *****, since it is possible she could have been raped, but very strong christian and not want to have an abortion. This other stuff is her own personal business tho so oh well, ppl don't need to kno th rest, thank yu #69 for som sense.

Ok, I've been observing this whole thing and i've come with a conclution, # 67, 68, and 69, u people are just great, and anybody like them, we need more of u in america, YDI for screwing around and ruining 3 lives in the process, this kid, ur "best friend", who u expect to take car of ur bastard child, who from my understanding is not even his, ur ruining the kids life who will grow up withot a father, probobly messed up, and ur ruining YOUR life, because from what I've heard, u are WAY to young to be raising a kid in the first place, and most likely shouldn't be having one anyway. Not to mention ur not even calling the father, who should compleatly be there. And the fact that u even have the nerve to ask ur "crush" to go outta his way to take care a kid who isn't even his is pathetic! I'm ashocked and appauled he called u a friend. What hell ur about to put that kid through and what u tried to get ur friend involved into is on YOUR hands. Your a lousy friend and am even lousy parent to do this. To put it simply, u made your bed, now sleep in it! And that's all I have to say on the entire matter

Ouch, you guys are harsh! For all we know, her husband could be deployed overseas serving his country and this poor girl is scared of having a child by herself. Her crush might possibly be her best friend from college who was so supportive to her while her husband was away, she developed feelings for him. But because of her Christian morals, she did not act upon those feelings. And maybe the crush was volunteering with a Big Brother program and the kid wanted to eat Corn Flakes and watch Spongebob.

No, if she is married she has no business having a "crush" on anyone whether she acts on it or not. Or at the VERY least, if she does have a crush on someone other than her husband than that is definitely something that she should be keeping to herself. By telling ANYONE she has a "crush" on them implies she would like to get with them. And being Christian has nothing to with having Morals that keep you from cheating. Morals keep you from cheating, not your religion.

Oh, and #393 is damn smart too, he knows what he's talking about, and as for "us" being harsh, we are not harsh, we are simply stating the facts! Facts such some people don't want to hear, well guess what? Too bad. She screwed up. Deal with it. And maybe she had a husband overseas, which I think she would have stated, she still shouldn't have asks her CRUSH to accopany her, I mean really, cut the crap.

your crush is staying the hell away from you and your baby because he has no interest in seeing where that is going.

Okay, I'm finally writing back to all 401 of your comments. Yes, I am a pregnant teenager- although, I can not see how that has any revelance to my post, pregnancy in teenagers happens quite often and I do not appreciate the judgemental/negative comments being thrown at me. It's pure slander. Yes, the father and I did have a fallout and I will be raising the baby on my own, with the help and support of my family and friends- not to mention he lives in the northern part of the state that I live in, which happens to be 4-5 hours away, even if he wanted to be here for the arrival of our child(which we are expecting to be a girl), he could not make it here on time. Therefore, my mother is my "go'to man", for lack of better words. I also notice you all are saying that he wouldn't want to hold my hand or watch the baby being born, I never said he would be in the delievery room- I simply asked him to keep my company during the scary hours of contractions that were yet to come, until my mother could arrive and take over. Yes, we had previously discussed it, and he had said that if need-be, he would be there. Unfortunately for me, he was speaking pure lies. As for the premature labor I did go into, they did stop it, and I am now on bed rest while taking a medicine called "terbutaline" every 4 hours in order to hold her until full term. (Which is also why I could write my FML, I didn't come home taking care of a baby, I came home on bed rest so I could have my baby at the correct time. I had nothing else to do but write my FML.) I do understand how confusing and misleading my post was, but keep in mind you only get a certain amount of letters to work with when writing your original FML, and by reading this I'm sure you've noticed that I could not elaborate thouroughly with 300 letters as a maximum. I do appreciate your opinions, even though I do not agree with all the statements that were made. Just wanted to explain since there were so many confused people.

"Yes, the father and I did have a fallout and I will be raising the baby on my own, with the help and support of my family and friends- not to mention he lives in the northern part of the state that I live in, which happens to be 4-5 hours away, even if he wanted to be here for the arrival of our child(which we are expecting to be a girl), he could not/would not make it here on time. Therefore, my mother is my "go-to man", for lack of better words. IN THE NEXT SECTION I ACCIDENTIALLY DELETED THIS PART: Yes, I do have a crush- and yes I did ask him to be there for me. AGUMENTATION OF THE ORIGINAL COMMENT: I also notice you all are saying that he wouldn't want to hold my hand or watch the baby being born, I never said he would be in the delievery room- I simply asked him to keep me company during the scary hours of contractions that were yet to come, until my mother could arrive and take over. Yes, we had previously discussed it, and he had said that if need-be, he would be there. Unfortunately for me, he was speaking pure lies."