By mr1234 - 02/12/2014 04:01 - United States - San Francisco

Today, it's either be alone and miserable, or go on shitty dates and be miserable. I have no other options. FML
I agree, your life sucks 28 510
You deserved it 6 756

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mr1234 6

OP here--I'm quite happy with my life otherwise; I have great family, a place to live and food to eat, a job I really like. I'm just very lonely. However, in my experience with dating sites, I get very frustrated because many of the dates go nowhere (because of many different reasons, many of them objectively pertaining to the other party). I do not go out to bars/clubs, and even though I have a number of activities outside the house, they are majority female (kickboxing, walking group, female friends that don't know a lot of single males, etc). I feel like I'm really missing that special someone in my life, and want to do all I can to find him, but "dating" is just making me feel worse and worse about myself (over multiple years). So literally, I have no other choice that to be unhappy (in this area) and alone, or be horribly uncomfortable on dates with strangers (which are indeed few and far between to begin with). So **** all of you for saying i deserve it. maybe with some background you'll understand that character limitations don't show the whole story.

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Top comments

ShenaniganNinja 20

Hey OP. I know dating sucks. I'm a guy, and I have to contend with the fact that 90% of men in online dating websites come off as crazy creeps. It makes every time I try and message someone an effort to demonstrate that I'm neither creepy nor crazy, while simultaneously keeping my messages short so I don't come off as desperate either. When it comes to online dating, it's a numbers game. You'll go on 20 shitty dates for every 1 good date. For when it comes to that, my aunt gave me a solid piece of advice on dating. A lot of people make really bad first impressions, but they're actually decent people. Give anyone who you don't immediately find distasteful or unattractive 3 dates. If by the 3rd date you don't care to see them again, don't bother. She said she's had lots of good relationships and dates that she would have passed up if she didn't follow this rule. Be patient OP.

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patwo8 14

Try and see the bright side of everything and keep your head up

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Comments

worldclassrager 39

At first this seemed confusing... But there is someone our there don't give up...keep your chin up OP

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DaBlacky 31

why is it free food? Because she's a woman?

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rapunzel3416 28

I'm in a very similar situation. The guy I actually liked friend zoned me and I had just friend zoned a different guy because I thought there was something going on with me and the first guy. I deserve it I guess.

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nekminnet 13

Get that man out of the friend zone! It's not a one way ticket you know

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Jellysweetheart 23

It is possible to be single and happy... That's an option. Spend your time doing what you want to do without worrying about finding someone and it'll happen when it happens. Don't let men decide your happiness

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nekminnet 13

If you're miserable with yourself when your alone then you'll always be miserable. Try to learn to like yourself then others will and you'll find your someone special.

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marousje 20

I wanted to say: at least there's free food.. But you're a guy so you dont even got that going for you. I'm sorry :-(!

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laden_swallow09 34

Hooray for outdated, sexist gender roles! Also, OP IS female.

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marousje 20

Jeez, cant handle a joke nowadays? And it said mr thats why, take it easy ;-)

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Nessco 36

Perhaps you need to change your outlook on life. Start finding things to be happy about.

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babycakesxx 11

Learn to be happy in your own and learn to love yourself.

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Soundslikeothers 15

No other options? You can hang out with friends and be miserable, you can spend time with family and be miserable.

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Cherryta 17

Just because you're single doesn't mean you are alone. You can be single and happy! Just focus on yourself; the right person will come along when you aren't looking :)

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