By mr1234 - 02/12/2014 04:01 - United States - San Francisco

Today, it's either be alone and miserable, or go on shitty dates and be miserable. I have no other options. FML
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You deserved it 6 756

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mr1234 6

OP here--I'm quite happy with my life otherwise; I have great family, a place to live and food to eat, a job I really like. I'm just very lonely. However, in my experience with dating sites, I get very frustrated because many of the dates go nowhere (because of many different reasons, many of them objectively pertaining to the other party). I do not go out to bars/clubs, and even though I have a number of activities outside the house, they are majority female (kickboxing, walking group, female friends that don't know a lot of single males, etc). I feel like I'm really missing that special someone in my life, and want to do all I can to find him, but "dating" is just making me feel worse and worse about myself (over multiple years). So literally, I have no other choice that to be unhappy (in this area) and alone, or be horribly uncomfortable on dates with strangers (which are indeed few and far between to begin with). So **** all of you for saying i deserve it. maybe with some background you'll understand that character limitations don't show the whole story.

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Top comments

ShenaniganNinja 20

Hey OP. I know dating sucks. I'm a guy, and I have to contend with the fact that 90% of men in online dating websites come off as crazy creeps. It makes every time I try and message someone an effort to demonstrate that I'm neither creepy nor crazy, while simultaneously keeping my messages short so I don't come off as desperate either. When it comes to online dating, it's a numbers game. You'll go on 20 shitty dates for every 1 good date. For when it comes to that, my aunt gave me a solid piece of advice on dating. A lot of people make really bad first impressions, but they're actually decent people. Give anyone who you don't immediately find distasteful or unattractive 3 dates. If by the 3rd date you don't care to see them again, don't bother. She said she's had lots of good relationships and dates that she would have passed up if she didn't follow this rule. Be patient OP.

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patwo8 14

Try and see the bright side of everything and keep your head up

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Star01052 6

I went to many shitty dates! Last date I went, I met my husband

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Hitdadeck10 2

Pessimist much? Damn, try seeing good in life, you only get one shot at it.

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aka_Specs 7

Are you kidding me? Have you not heard of video games? Or if you're all about computers...playing games through Steam, Uplay, or Origin? If video/computer games aren't your thing...sounds like you need to break your habits...get out...and socialize. Shit, I used Craigslist to find the woman of my dreams...and I had to deal with my share of shitty dates As the old expression goes "Man the **** Up"

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bradtato 2

With that outlook, of course you have no other options.

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goddessafrodite 6

You could be alone and happy you're alive to be alone. People kill me being sad because they are alone. Do you know why you're alone? Because no one wants to be around a depressed ass person who is always claiming misery. Go see a therapist!

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pinkstardust 9

It's better to be single • you cam do whatever you want But soon or later you'll find someone you love

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ProperPengTing 15

Alone with Netflix and Hulu isn't miserable. They don't complain.

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T1A2Z3 34

You're a woman. Dating isn't hard. There are so many sweet, kind, amazing guys out there... unless you are insanely picky this should be so easy... you get out there get tinder or something and find someone. You may have to go on more unsuccessful dates but view them as learning experiences or funny stories and if you really don't like the guy have a good excuse or plan the date for a very short time, for example "I have an hour before I go to this thing. Can we meet then?" It means you aren't spending more time than necessary and short and sweet is the way to go. I don't know if you're going to have to move to find guys or something but there are so many that you should be thrilled with. Stop being picky and just get to know them.

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