By mr1234 - 02/12/2014 04:01 - United States - San Francisco

Today, it's either be alone and miserable, or go on shitty dates and be miserable. I have no other options. FML
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mr1234 6

OP here--I'm quite happy with my life otherwise; I have great family, a place to live and food to eat, a job I really like. I'm just very lonely. However, in my experience with dating sites, I get very frustrated because many of the dates go nowhere (because of many different reasons, many of them objectively pertaining to the other party). I do not go out to bars/clubs, and even though I have a number of activities outside the house, they are majority female (kickboxing, walking group, female friends that don't know a lot of single males, etc). I feel like I'm really missing that special someone in my life, and want to do all I can to find him, but "dating" is just making me feel worse and worse about myself (over multiple years). So literally, I have no other choice that to be unhappy (in this area) and alone, or be horribly uncomfortable on dates with strangers (which are indeed few and far between to begin with). So **** all of you for saying i deserve it. maybe with some background you'll understand that character limitations don't show the whole story.

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Top comments

ShenaniganNinja 20

Hey OP. I know dating sucks. I'm a guy, and I have to contend with the fact that 90% of men in online dating websites come off as crazy creeps. It makes every time I try and message someone an effort to demonstrate that I'm neither creepy nor crazy, while simultaneously keeping my messages short so I don't come off as desperate either. When it comes to online dating, it's a numbers game. You'll go on 20 shitty dates for every 1 good date. For when it comes to that, my aunt gave me a solid piece of advice on dating. A lot of people make really bad first impressions, but they're actually decent people. Give anyone who you don't immediately find distasteful or unattractive 3 dates. If by the 3rd date you don't care to see them again, don't bother. She said she's had lots of good relationships and dates that she would have passed up if she didn't follow this rule. Be patient OP.

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patwo8 14

Try and see the bright side of everything and keep your head up

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Ki11erC 18

Why does this sound like one of those 10yr olds on Facebook complaining their life is over...

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ShenaniganNinja 20

If all the people you date make you miserable, YDI. Plenty of other people enjoy other peoples company that we go on dates with. If you want to change what's happening your life, first look at yourself.

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Morning_fml 22

What everyone is saying is generally right; happiness is a choice, it's not about what you have or who you are, it's what you think. On the other hand, it's better to be alone than to be with someone who makes you feel alone.

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indigohippopo 20

FYL if you're giving up on ever finding someone...There is someone for everyone. Don't give up OP.

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JRT1393 13

Build a racecar. You may still be miserable, but you'll have a racecar

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Lei_Aili 18

Maybe just try not to be so ******* miserable.

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natp1982 2

why not be alone and be happy? you don't need anyone else to make you happy, and if you're looking for someone else to do that, you're always going to be miserable.

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natp1982 2

why not be alone and be happy? you shouldn't need anyone else but yourself to make you happy, and if you're depending on someone else for happiness, you're always going to be miserable.

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