By mr1234 - 02/12/2014 04:01 - United States - San Francisco

Today, it's either be alone and miserable, or go on shitty dates and be miserable. I have no other options. FML
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mr1234 6

OP here--I'm quite happy with my life otherwise; I have great family, a place to live and food to eat, a job I really like. I'm just very lonely. However, in my experience with dating sites, I get very frustrated because many of the dates go nowhere (because of many different reasons, many of them objectively pertaining to the other party). I do not go out to bars/clubs, and even though I have a number of activities outside the house, they are majority female (kickboxing, walking group, female friends that don't know a lot of single males, etc). I feel like I'm really missing that special someone in my life, and want to do all I can to find him, but "dating" is just making me feel worse and worse about myself (over multiple years). So literally, I have no other choice that to be unhappy (in this area) and alone, or be horribly uncomfortable on dates with strangers (which are indeed few and far between to begin with). So **** all of you for saying i deserve it. maybe with some background you'll understand that character limitations don't show the whole story.

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Top comments

ShenaniganNinja 20

Hey OP. I know dating sucks. I'm a guy, and I have to contend with the fact that 90% of men in online dating websites come off as crazy creeps. It makes every time I try and message someone an effort to demonstrate that I'm neither creepy nor crazy, while simultaneously keeping my messages short so I don't come off as desperate either. When it comes to online dating, it's a numbers game. You'll go on 20 shitty dates for every 1 good date. For when it comes to that, my aunt gave me a solid piece of advice on dating. A lot of people make really bad first impressions, but they're actually decent people. Give anyone who you don't immediately find distasteful or unattractive 3 dates. If by the 3rd date you don't care to see them again, don't bother. She said she's had lots of good relationships and dates that she would have passed up if she didn't follow this rule. Be patient OP.

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patwo8 14

Try and see the bright side of everything and keep your head up

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tadale 10

Well, you're not going to be happy with others unless you're happy with yourself. Quit being a miserable, negative minded person and you'll be happy.

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movaa 11

I would focus on improving yourself first before you date or get involved with another person. You can't have a healthy relationship with that kind of an attitude. But don't worry , it's fixable IF you want it to be.

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liza1922 7

Or you could just enjoy your life. if you're not happy with your self I don't see how you expect to find anyone, since people don't generally enjoy crappy company

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ZorroRooster 19

Be single and happy. That's an option. And a good one. Because if you aren't happy on your own, it'll be damn near impossible to be happy with someone else. Work on you first.

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Lily_Rain77 25

these are the same options that every one has....

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pandalover69 26

Are you serious?! Try making some friends and hanging out with them, enjoy being single. If you just enjoy yourself you'll eventually find the right person without having to try.

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colvindj 22

Or you can lift weights, get gains, and be happy. That's also an option.

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