By Anonymous - 08/04/2016 21:43 - United States - Sterling

Today, my 12 and 14 year olds told me they'll be doing whatever they like from now on and there will be no rules or bedtime, otherwise they'll tell their teachers that my husband and I abuse them. Where did I go wrong? FML
I agree, your life sucks 24 511
You deserved it 3 322

Same thing different taste

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You should tell them, that if they say that, they will be taken away from you, and placed in foster care, where there will be rules, bedtimes and chores they're trying to escape.

Something like this happened to my uncle. His son (my cousin) called the cops on him for telling him to study, saying he hurt him. He had to live with us for a couple days. It's sad because now he's too afraid to discipline his youngest one now because if something is brought to the cops again it could get his kids taken away from him.

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Definitely hire a social worker: you can't let your kids hold power over you. Alternately you could make their base threats a reality

Get them to say it again but secretly record it and then send it to all their teachers.

"Oh I'm sorry the Internet password changed and I forgot it after putting it in our phones" or "I'm sorry but you're fe adults so you cook now" or "can't take you anywhere you're too much of a brat"

Ihavegas 22

well call their bluff and proceed with an almighty beating that their descendants would feel it!

No phones or electronics for them no cooking or washing their clothes no driving them anywhere no money until they change. And you should go with them to their school and meet with their teacher , principal and guidance counselor and explain what they said

It's likely not you. My cousin came home from school with a pamphlet given to her by her teacher. She called the number when her parents wouldn't get a new toy (and smacked her hand when she grabbed and threw it) because "it hurt my feelings and teacher said that's abuse.

harleyivy 7

Continue to discipline then and hide some cameras around the house, so you'll have proof your kids are lying. Why would they waste social services time like that?

Tell them that that is fine. Say it makes it easier on you. If they don't want to follow your rules then there's a whole lot of stuff you do for them you don't have to like buy them presents of birthdays and christmas and pay for stuff, go to their events, drive them to and from friends places. They can make their own soup when they get sick, etc. If they wanna be adults treat them like ones.

They have no idea how much trouble they could get in by saying that.

You didn't beat them. Take this from an abused child. A little abuse sets the alpha