By lellow_171 - 19/11/2012 01:47 - United States - Peoria

Spicy
Today, my boyfriend and I had amazing make-up sex after a huge fight. Turns out he forgot to let me know it was actually break-up sex. FML
I agree, your life sucks 38 953
You deserved it 5 079

lellow_171 tells us more.

I'm OP. And here is the background. I did something stupid, he broke up with me earlier in the week but had told a friend of mine he'd consider getting back together if we talked about it, so I thought me getting back into counseling and us talking about it was fixing things. I don't think he knew it was break-up sex when we had it, but our pillow talk turned into him breaking up with me once again. I still love him, and he has always been great. I just blew things and when I thought they were being fixed, they actually weren't. So in a sense I deserve it, since he didn't really know it was break-up sex until he broke up with me a second time, right after the sex. So that was awesome. Sucks even more that it happened during the busiest week of school for the year (busier than finals for me). So all of my grades are being determined while I'm trying to get over a boy, and going back to counseling for major depression. AWESOME.

Top comments

Ah, yet another woman complaining about an asshole breaking up with her. You should be out celebrating the fact that you're free of this cretin who doesn't have the decency to be honest with you.

Comments

delightfultwist 5

how could he do that??? ********!!! how do you kiss and touch someone you never want to see again?

Marrach 7

3- The one heart broken is torn most likely and seeks this as a possibility the relationship might still have a chance. But really , its over.

Break up sex is the best sex. So many emotions.

puggy74 5

Ydi for poor choice in a boyfriend

44-I agree with what you are saying and I have found that girls I am not emotionally into a relationship with, I find it hard to even be aroused by them, and break up sex is something I wont ever understand, but my comment was referring to masturbaition... look at your right hand with the palm down and your fingers spread. you can see the name jill. sorry if this reference was not clear and hence why I recieved thumbs down, or it could have been people didnt think it was funny too I suppose. oh well

I'm OP. And here is the background. I did something stupid, he broke up with me earlier in the week but had told a friend of mine he'd consider getting back together if we talked about it, so I thought me getting back into counseling and us talking about it was fixing things. I don't think he knew it was break-up sex when we had it, but our pillow talk turned into him breaking up with me once again. I still love him, and he has always been great. I just blew things and when I thought they were being fixed, they actually weren't. So in a sense I deserve it, since he didn't really know it was break-up sex until he broke up with me a second time, right after the sex. So that was awesome. Sucks even more that it happened during the busiest week of school for the year (busier than finals for me). So all of my grades are being determined while I'm trying to get over a boy, and going back to counseling for major depression. AWESOME.

conman531 23

Oh Op I'm sorry about that. I know its rough, but the best one is out there for you, and it's someone that doesn't have to think twice about you either. Just give it some time. Don't go looking for love, let it find you and go from there. Make sure your happy and don't rush in to a relationship again. Just pick yourself up, and move forward. It will take time, but you can do it. Just don't go crazy. You can get through it. I know people have been in your position, and trust me its not the end of the world. You got this. It's not important now anyways. Your still a kid, so act like it. Have fun. Have lots of fun, and when your ready, get ready for the lucky guy to find you, and trust me he will. It won't happen over night, but he will come. I promise.

What did you do to him? Let's hope you've learnt your lesson.

By "Have fun", it partially means explore partners and have sex. By "Have lots of fun", it partially means explore lots of partners and have lots of sex. By "Get ready for the lucky guy", it means be a really mature lady that is loving and caring, and really good at sex so you can show him an amazing time. As amazing as this break up sex you speak of.

#65, Thanks for getting back to us, OP. Best of luck in sorting through this. Counseling is a great idea. As #67 said, try not to rush into a new relationship until you are secure in yourself -- and in your studies, too.

mowmowlife 21

Going with that 'something stupid' is a lot more severe than described

You didn't "deserve" it, OP. It's a confusing situation and it's likely that the only way it was going to get sorted out was the way it happened. Make sure you spend every day with friends and family, the ones who have your best interests at heart. You'll get through it. It *does* get better.

Yes because sex is the most important thing about a relationship and a lady must be proficient in it to be able to keep her man satisfied and avoid him breaking up with her and a man must be proficient in it to be abler to keep his lady satisfied and avoid her breaking up with him because screw romantic love screw learning how to better a relationship outside of sex that's just not Important.

ChopSuey444 20

Considering when OP responded to this FML, a message saying "His comment" displayed on the home page, I don't think OP is a lady. Also, no one said anything about needing to be great at sex. Simply to be carefree and not stress, have fun and maybe weigh the option that you would both be happier with someone else, and the right person (be it your ex or not) will find their way to you. A good relationship shouldn't have to be forced.

Damn, sounds like you have a lot to handle. Hopefully you'll be better off soon!

In every feminist's face who automatically assumed that it was his fault or he is the one who was probably so evil because of him breaking up with you. Because "standing up for yourself" only counts if you are a woman. Good job being honest, OP. In the face of all these Feminazis/Feminazi boot lickers.

my comment got moderated because someone's feelings were hurt. At least there is one more person who agrees with me, as it shows. They called me a "13 year old" for using the word Feminazi. LoL! Are the moderators on this website like 10? Because when you are ten, your parents keep you away from the harsh realities of life, in order to not hurt your itsy bitsy feelings. That seems to the case here too. Moderators trying to keep their majority audience of middle schoolers happy. As a moderator your job is to delete the comment if you see it unfit, not give me your shit feedback on what you think i am or i am not, because no gives two ***** about your opinion. And you scare me with warnings on this forum? It isn't something so important that it will scare me to lose it. pfffft You can keep your shit FML crap. What a bloody joke.

Wow are you really that pathetic that you have to bitch to strangers about your woes on someone else's FML? Go back to drinking your Mountain Dew and eating your Doritos. Nice fedora, by the way. Also, don't you EVER compare feminists who want equality to nazis who want genocide. If anyone is acting like a ten year old, it's you.

All of them say "his comment." At least that I've seen with the app's update.

Been there....sucks but hang in there...sorry you're having to deal with all that at once. I'm in the same boat unfortunately :(

#101, that's just disrespectful. SHE came her because you can talk to people and share your problems in order to fix them without embarrassment. That is the point of FML. And if OP has depression, this is like a second consular.

#108, I don't think #101 is talking to OP.... It sounds like she's taking to someone else, possibly the person whose comments hot moderated

101 was commenting on someone else's post, clearly not OPs original or follow up. Read the comment again(101's) she is saying someone commented and compared liberal feminism to nazis or something? (Yeah, wtf?). I got confused for a second too. :)

The FML wasn't posted to portray him as a dick as much as it was to portray how much the situation sucked. You try re-wording it to the extent where it would actually be posted, as well as the fact that the original version did not look like this, but often FMLs are edited to make them more concise and shocking. If you bothered to read the FMLs one can vote onto this site vs. those posted you would realize that they need to go through this process or else half of the posts would look like some retard had puked on their keyboard.

She did. That's kind of the point of the FML.

ChopSuey444 20

OP is a guy. When he commented on the FML it displayed "read his comment"

so thats how we determine sex. FML is the only fool-proof way

mariri9206 32

89, all comments by the OP for FMLs are stated as "read his comment" - doesn't mean their a guy, especially since the new update for the app doesn't show gender anymore.

in the English language if gender is undetermined it is referred to as masculine therefore it says his, not her.

On mine it says "Read their comment" and there is a female icon next to the username.

mowmowlife 21

It turns out that they were already broken up because of something she did but that he was considering getting back together with her. He didn't know at the time

There might not have been any sex involved if he mentioned this beforehand.