Yeah, but just based on this event, they should break up anyway. **** how it happened, the result is for the best.

How do you know op is amazing?

Because the break-up line was "it's not you, it's me."

And I really like him. The way we met was sweet and he's done nothing but be the best person towards me and cared for me.

She's gonna tattle to mommy? LOL

She was bluffing about it but if she did I would have been kicked out of the house lol

How'd you meet? :3

We're both in ROTC and some how went to the same Dairy Queen night where we hold up signs near the road, it was October so it was extremely cold. I was standing there shaking so bad cause I'm naturally cold and it felt a lot colder than it was. He walked over there and had a hurt expression and said you "look so cold. Come here and let me hug you so you warm up at least a little" and he waited until the worst moment to ask me to be his girlfriend haha I had just finished running three miles

You shouldn't just have nothing to do with his parents though, later in life you might regret it. However if they're just really not good for either of you, you should probably keep some space. Just try not to be disrespectful.

It's nearly impossible for me to have any sort of respect for them. I'm not rude to them. But I don't like them. They told him that it was his fault that his brother had cancer. Blaming him for something nobody could have stopped.

Blamed for cancer? That's insane. my brother was diagnosed when he was 8 or 9 but my parents never even considered me to blame.

Just curious, why did they think it was your bf's fault his brother had cancer? I can't even imagine the reason they would think that. :S

What kind of cancer? We blame my grandmother for my brother's skin cancer, but that's because she left him in the sun as a toddler and he got 2nd and 3rd degree sunburn which greatly increases your risk of contracting malignant cancer. Perhaps we're not getting the entire story?

Yea.. If you are in a good home you can't get kicked out for having a boyfriend unless you are too young. Let her tell your mother, you can say that you're dating but aren't even having sex.

They like to make him hate himself. She is horrible to him

I'm not exactly sure but he has it in his throat, somewhere in his nose, brain, back, legs, basically everywhere. He's doing chemotherapy and getting better though

They like to make him hate himself? What the ****?

She calls him things like worthless, trash, and a disappointment. she also likes to start yelling at him to the point he starts crying

Wow - that sounds like abuse. That is a crime and there is more awareness of emotional abuse now. Could he talk to childline about it? (0800 1111) completely confidential as long as he doesn't give his address or full name. You could talk to them too - as this must be really hard on you supporting someone going through that .

Hey OP. I think you're right. Fight the battle you can win, there is no point trying to reason or defy his mom if she is such a nasty bitch (I mean who the F blames his kid for his sibling's cancer O_o?) It's clear that she is completely abusive to him and just don't want him to be happy (with you in particular). My advice though would be to be careful if she is so vindictive. When he turns 18 and leaves home, she might take it on you and go with the threat of telling tales to your parents. Just be careful and good luck.

They're poison my boyfriend I met through a friend had this kind of behavior done to him by his father and step mom claiming the reason he couldn't keep a girl is because he's a loser

I'm kinda confused when you said you live in a good home but if his mother told your mother that you guys were having sex, you would get kicked out. To me that's not the definition of a good home. I can understand they would get a little upset maybe because if your age but not kicked out of the house. Btw, not saying you're too young for sex, I've been that age, but just that everyone is comfortable and not going against what the other partner does/doesn't want, like saying no and having an understanding of what sex is to the other person. It's bad just rushing into that without full understanding and comfort. On the other side note: what the hell is wrong with his mother/family that they would say shit like that? You never say that to your child. You go talk to someone about whatever issues you have like a normal ******* adult and not take it out on your own child. That is ****** up and he or you should probably call for help I this. This is a bad situation that he needs to get out of.

Does he plan to move out when he's 18? If he's not going to have anything to do with her then that's what I'm assuming is the plan. Best of luck to you too!

My boyfriends mom also blackmailed me and told me that she was going to tell my mother that we were having sex and tried to break us up. That was five years ago, and we're still together today and now his mom likes me. Hopefully it will change for you like it changed for me.

What does "the environment you live in" mean??

Op, may I ask, how old are you exactly?

#71 - I get the sense it's a socioeconomic difference based on the comments, perhaps different upbringings as well. #74 - She's 15, as she said in comments above. Additionally, I 100% agree what #63 said about a "good home" not living somewhere you'll be kicked out of over a disagreement. A home shouldn't be conditional.

It's highly likely that his mother has been doing that for years if it's that bad, meaning no matter how old he is now, he's been treated like shit as a minor and emotionally and mentally abused. Get the cops on his mom's ass.

Well hey, you can just be together secretly and have her think you're just being friends. Good luck to the both of you, and the way you met IS really cute! I'm naturally cold as well, so I feel your pain.

The same thing happened to me recently. I wish someone had told me this, don't make him choose between you and his mom until he's ready. My boyfriend turned 18 and said he would leave her as soon as he could, but he ended up breaking it off with me because he wasn't mature enough to leave his mother. She also blames him for things he didn't do and is extremely "parentified". His mother made him break it off with me too and went to my mother as well saying our relationship wasn't "healthy". My mother, a clinical social worker, disagreed as did her boss, but my boyfriend's mother didn't care. I hope this is some useful advice! Keep us posted (:

For everyone saying to call the cops. That would be a great idea if the cops actually did anything. They aren't allowed to get involved in domestic matters. And I know that for the state of Florida emotional abuse by a parent isn't recognized. I've called the cops on my mom three times and each time the cops told me to suck it up. I'm really sorry OP that's a horrible thing to go through. It's best just to wait until he's 18. And as for your parents try talking to them right now. Tell them about your boyfriends parents. If they really are good to you then they will understand.

OP isn't in Florida, 91.

Tell him to check out r/RaisedByNarcissists..

They just sound like the sweetest people ever.