By haztod - 30/03/2014 21:52 - United Kingdom - Edinburgh
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Hi, OP here - I'm super surprised this got posted! Just to clear some things up: my boyfriend is American and studying here in the UK. I have met his sister and we get along super well, but not anyone else in his family, nor do they know he's dating someone. From what I understand, his parents - especially his dad - aren't really big on relationships, especially when studying, as they can be seen as a distraction. I know for a fact that it was his mom as they usually do voice calls and I sit quietly, but she wanted a video chat so I shifted rooms on this occasion; there's definitely not another girl in the picture! I spoke to him about it after the call and explained that it upset me a little and made me feel like he had to hide me, and he was very apologetic and felt guilty - he told me this was his first serious relationship and he wasn't really sure what the right steps were in terms of parents or when they should happen which I actually found quite sweet. This is definitely not a deal breaker - he is so wonderful I wouldn't let something like this ruin our relationship! He just Skyped his mom again tonight and told her the news, so it's no longer an issue. He has met all my family and they adore him, so no issues there!
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His balls are in his mum's handbag, but don't worry, she has them nice and safe.
That's one way to put it
He's got maturity issues. Draw the line and give him an ultimatum to grow up or leave
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If he was ready to move to a different continent then he should be ready to introduce a nice girl to his mom.
At 23, I ha kind of pegged him for an international student, or else s/he was one recntly. It happens all the time—kid from a more conservative country goes to the west for university, goes wild (or "wild," by our standards), doesn't tell his/her parents a thing. I'm assuming that's what's happening here until told otherwise.
Wow, what was going on when I wrote this? *had *he *recently
I wouldn't be so quick to assume he's ashamed of telling her about you. He might be afraid of her reaction. Different people different cultures different thinking.
That sucks OP, what I don't get is why is he making you sit in the kitchen while he's on skype? If he won't introduce you to his mom why can't you at least be doing something you feel like doing instead of just sitting there while they talk? Lol
Use. Your. Words. TALK to your boyfriend about why he might not want to introduce you, and if he doesn't have a legitimate reason (like his mum is 'overprotective'/crazy, or religious/cultural difference or whatever), then you need to consider leaving him and finding someone more respectful of you and your relationship.
That's horrible -_- if this bothers you, you guys need to communicate!
Don't worry, he must have a good reason! Just talk with him and ask him. Maybe it's a culture problem. You know, 6 months is not that much. My bf took 3 years to tell his parents because of our culture difference (he's Indian, I'm French)! Good luck op and keep smiling :)
That sucks.
Hey I'm the same way. But that's just because my mom is annoying with girls I tell her about.
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And that's not a deal breaker for you why?
An option would be to walk up to the camera in your birthday suit and tell him you missed your period the last two months.