"Will you marry me?" "Yes!" ... "Oh wait... nevermind. I don't think I want to."

I'm sorry he did that. Absolutely, positively don't marry him unless he truly shows that he's ready for commitment. I became engaged to a guy who seemed to be totally into marrying me, but then he started begging off from things like going to the caterer and finding the photographer. (We planned the wedding for a year later.) He started moving the date for later in the next year, over and over. Just before I paid the photographer and dj to finalize them being at the wedding, he admitted that he didn't want to marry me. I asked him when he was going to tell me and he basically said that he wasn't going to - that he was planning on standing me up at the altar. He said he'd "live with (me) forever, but just didn't want to marry (me.)" Beware. Listen to the guy because he will tell you exactly what he's feeling, and believe him. If he starts acting sketchy, have a good, long talk with him because it'll save you heartache and money in the long run. (Yes I dumped his ass.)

i know this feeling. My partner proposed 3 times (over the space of a year) when neither of us were financially stable so i said no with those reasons, so i felt it was my turn to ask. 2 years into the relationship so i did. he said yes. we had an awesome night. then the next day he said he wasnt ready to tell his family (they where very much controlling in his life and didnt like me at all), so i said ok. we will give it a few weeks. i get called "mrs *last name* for 2 weeks. then another 2 weeks later, he decided he wasnt ready for the commitment either. then promised me he would buy me a ring b4 he got a motorbike of his own accord. the bike appeared a month later didnt it? still no ring.i thort well ok. things are crazy in his life. relatives deaths and wot not then 2months later, i get dumped on facebook. so i know the disappointment. i just hope u can get past it and that it works out for you. cos i know even wen i said we could deal with it. i had issues knowing he wasnt that keen after announcing yes and telling a few of our friends... i hope it doesnt go the way mine did for you!

He's just not that into you if he's not marrying you. Ask him if he's ever actually going to marry you one day,

How come nobody gets it? he wanted to break up and expected to have NO for an answer. Let him go and find a genuine guy.

I'm pretty sure that he needs to make up his mind.

Meh! He sounds like a loser. Can you do better? There's no "takebacks" with a real proposal.

He's not an asshole; he's just weak. Think of it as him doing you a favor -- you're better off not marrying this one because he isn't really ready to make a commitment yet.

Oh man, that's bad. I really should have thought it out before. Maybe he didn't mean for it to happen. Did he at least try to make up for it?

I've pretty much been there. My boyfriend was about to ask me to get an apartment with him after 3 years of going out. (Which would have been a problem with my family since they would have thought that I was sleeping with him.) But we were artists, passionate about our feelings. It was essentially a proposal. Then, instead of taking things to the next step, he started getting distant at the thought of commitment. (He has a fear of emotional intimacy. I mean, he even moved twice to get further from people he was getting to comfortable with. Across the country.) And instead of asking, he broke up with me. Then proceeded to break my heart for a month, including breaking off the friendship. Then, spent the next two months trying to get back together with me. (Proposing to me in the process.) But I'm glad that I didn't end up sleeping with him or doing something (like saying yes) stupid that I would have regretted for the rest of my life. Because I found the love of my life, who has actually never wavered in his intent to marry me. We've been together for 5 years now, and we're going to be married as soon as we finish saving up for what we need to be comfortable. (Which should be in about a year.)