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By "INDYSTRUCTABLE" - 12/05/2017 14:51

Today, my daughter told me I should have had an abortion or given her up for adoption because I wouldn't buy her a pair of $300 shoes to impress her friends. She's only 13. FML
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INDYSTRUCTABLE 43

hi, OP here! wow, I can't believe I finally got posted! Okay, so here's what happened. My daughter got upset because her 2 year old brother was wearing Birkenstocks and she claimed he would grow up to be bullied like she is by her "friends" because those sandals are "lame" & "cheap". I'm not wealthy but i do strive to give them what I consider nice things, or so I thought. For Christmas she got 225 dollar timberland boots and 100 dollar snickers in Feb for her birthday. she ruins most shoes with mud, scrapes and mistreatment within a month! so I don't want to purchase the 300 dollar shoes and see my hard earn money wasted. she argued that she's popular therefore I'm obligated to buy her things to impress her friends. Any gifts I give her such as trips to Victoria secret for new bras is not a "gift" but her right because that's the norm now in 2017. she told me I need to try to give her a better childhood than I had or I should have taken BC or given her up for adoption. (I grew up poor, with 10 shoes from payless) I don't spoil her at all! I'm not wealthy! but her friends are putting these stupid thoughts in her head by telling her their parents spend a 1000 dollars every week on new shoes. (this is a middle class public school, completely false). As a teen mom, I sacrificed so much of my happiness and went without so much so she would never feel "poor" although I struggle greatly to support her alone, so her completely broke my heart and reduced me to tears. I don't want her to be a materialist person. I love the minimalist lifestyle but I don't force it on my family. I try to show them that life's most valuable things have no price tag. I feel like social media is putting these insane unrealistic expectations on kids to get likes. apparently the few compliments on her shoes mentioned above weren't good enough. She is a spoiled rude self entitled brat. I won't be spending a dime on another piece of clothing or shoes for a very long time. by the way this argument took place over the phone, otherwise I might have thrown her through a wall for the disrespect.

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Mynxie 26

And that's when you stop buying any fancy clothes and make her realize how fortune she is to have what she has. And when she is old enough to work a PT job, completely stop buying her clothes, make up, and other such nonessentials.

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Kurliez408 32

take her to a homeless shelter so she can realize what she's got. if she needs 300$ shoes to impress her friends- what kind of friends are they?

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reymon8823 24

I'm sorry but if she was my daughter she woulda got soap in the mouth. (I have twin girls fyi) they know money doesn't grow on trees and I work hard to provide for them

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PunzieKitten 1

Annnnd that's when you take her privileges away and start taking her to work at a homeless shelter or soup kitchen so her spoiled ass can realize how lucky she is in life to have what she has.

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CrazyChiC42 10

Give her a budget she can spend on luxury items and make it clear that once she runs out of her own funds it's all walmart shoes and cheap sports bras and other inexpensive necessities (and only necessities) from then on until it's time for more funds. If she covers her expensive shoes in mud, she's responsible for cleaning them or replacing them. She's plenty old enough to learn some money management.

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GoogieWithers 22

You sound like a great Mum. I think she is just going through her hormonal teenage years and will definitely regret her behavior in years to come. Just remind her that it isn't too late for adoption!

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vandj8 9

Woooow. Yeah, walmart/payless shoes for life, from now on. Or, even better, goodwill. Or she can pay for her own damn clothes/shoes.

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Bob_Gray 6

Your follow up reply gives me so much hope. You're a rare treasure of a parent, but it's unusual for kids that age to recognize and appreciate that.

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Maurice Bury 5

I feel you just stay understanding and stick to your beliefs. she might Learn from them eventually. she s bond to be difficult shes 13 :D haha good luck

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Ian Lodge 7

Slap that child into next week, she shouldn't be acting like that in the first place

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jensensbooty 6

Yeah you are spoiling her. Bras at Victoria's Secret aren't a "right", there are target bras that work just fine. Timberland boots are really expensive and not a necessity. You need to put your foot down (actually needed to put your foot down a while ago) and stop letting her talk to you like that. You are giving her leeway by making her believe you owe her things. You owe her nothing. I am a priveledged dependent living off of my parents until I graduate but my parents always drilled into my head that I was entitled to nothing. Just the roof over my head and food. Whenever I got "expensive" things it was always from Nordstrom Rack. Never from department stores or full price. You really need to reign in your child before she becomes more rotten.

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