blueocean43 might be right :/

I'm so sad can't believe plexi has gone :( his comments were the best, followed closely by toxi's, bad bad times

I have to say my husband's mom was pretty horrible. She was verbally, emotionally and physically abusive. She actually crushed one of his testicles when he was 8. She told him he was getting 20 licks with the wooden paddle and after 20 he rolled over and she hit him one more time for good measure. Was she a horrible mother and screw him over? Yes, she was and yes she did. His father was abusive too (for the 18 months he was around) and his mom left his dad because of that. Then she turned around and abused her own son. My husband loves kids but is scared to have his own because he's afraid to end up like his parents. my 5 year old niece cannot get enough of him (he's like a 6 ft 2in toy) and my 2 month old nephew loves when my husband holds him, he giggles and smiles non-stop. And my hubby is so happy to play with them and hold them. I think he would make a great father but thanks to his mom and dad, we might never find out.

hope the email you write is worded better than this fml.

can someone explain this FML to me?!?

******* looser: "bäää my mother screwed me up, now im a big idiot and my wife thinks the same"

Perhaps you could grow a pair and learn to use them respctfully, considering it's stll your mother, no matter how emotionally damaged she may or may not be. At some point, you may want to consider the idea that you're enabling her manipulative behavior by giving in to requests that are at opposition with your true feelings. Also, you send your fiancee a message that when mom lashes out at her, even if it's irrational, you'll side with mom. And that's a recipe for disaster in a marriage. It's about learning where to draw the boundaries now, with respect and kindness, but still sticking to them firmly.

Um, he said it, so he needs to be the one to apologize (if even...). And don't cow-tow to her now unless you really do just want the whole thing to snowball (again) at some later point in time.

I LOL'ed. You must be marrying that douchebag, cuntface, bastard SOB for his money,

Chances are that his mother does not have a crippling disorder (which by the way, is not your mother-in-law's fault and you should feel horrible for blaming her). She probably raised OP just fine and did normal motherly things that kids end up blowing out of proportion when they can't figure out what's wrong with their lives. Please stop comparing your ****** up life to a normal person with normal mother issues. It's not like you came with an instruction manual, OP. Your mom probably had to do a lot of guess work when raising you and based on her reaction to your asshole fiance's confrontation it seems pretty obvious that she tried her hardest to be a good mother. You're old enough to get married, maybe you should start taking responsibility for your own problems and let go of the past.