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By fatty - 23/09/2009 06:47 - United States

Today, my fitness trainer husband told me that if I could not make the commitment to stay thin, he could not make the commitment to stay with me. FML
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doggie3 0

Awwwww. I struggle with weight issues too, so I feel for you, but that is not cool of your husband. Tons of people are gonna be on here telling you to " divorce his ass" but don't.

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Intoxicunt 5

Jokes aside, my advice would be this: Talk to your doctor. See if you are at an acceptable weight, or whether your health is/is going to suffer for your weight. If you are healthy, divorce. Your husband is just a shallow asshole. If you are not or are borderline, try to lose the weight. He has your health in mind when he says those things.

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purple91 8

You should have expected this. Fitness is important to him, so of course he wants someone else in shape.

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bigcrazymike 6

YDI for marrying someone whose goals and values are so different from your own.

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Lifelooser_fml 0

Agreeing with Mikes comment. Why did you marry him in the first place? So many desperate people of there. STOP SACTIFICING YOUR DIGNITY FOR RINGS. loosers

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trakus 0

The guy is breaking his vows lady.

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whitesmoke 0

thats totally a legit deal ppl who go from normal weight to fat is pathetic, disgusting, lazy, spoiled, and irresponsible Im with the hubby

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wyrdotter 1

I love my spouse. Fat, thin (and she's been both), doesn't matter. I love her, and I won't leave whether she gains or loses. She was full-figured when we met, she lost 130 pounds in one year. Before you cheer, the cause was not a diet, but a catastrophic illness that nearly killed her. She's gained some back. I don't care. I love HER, not her jeans size. That is commitment. May this man find a trim, flat-bellied, shallow, high-maintenance air head and free this woman to find someone who loves her, not her waist measurement.

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eean 0

You got into the relationship when she was "full-figured" (which I guess means really fat if she lost 130 lbs!). So its really a totally different situation from "fatty" above, whose husband perhaps isn't attracted to her physically anymore. It doesn't seem so unreasonable that each party in a relationship should have to keep to some standards.

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bogwandis 0

Standards are fine, but coming right out and telling your significant other than you won't stay with them if they won't "stay thin" is a load of crap. Wanting your spouse to be healthy and wanting them to be thin are two totally different things. I'm fortunate to have a husband who loves me as is (I'm 5'5", 166, and 6 months pregnant), but if he ever said what the OP's husband said, he would be eating through a straw. I hope the OP eventually told her husband how awful he made her feel.

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wyrdotter 1

No, not "really fat," though she was REALLY skinny after she lost the weight - 270 (at 5'9", nicely proportioned and very healthy with good muscle tone) down to a tad under 140. It was not in any way a "healthy" weight loss and she didn't look "trim," she looked more like a refugee. Given that I prefer fuller figured females, I could have done the same as this jerk - told her if she didn't fluff back up to curvy, I was leaving. So, it is roughly the same situation, only in reverse. The point is I married the person, not the body. At 270 and at 140, the heart, spirit and soul were and are the same. Shapes change, time and gravity are no one's friend, and I suspect this guy will be finding some excuse a few years down the road to leave her for some 20-something anyway, even if she busts her tail to get down to an emaciated size zero now. Not that you indicated any concern about it whatsoever, but yes, she's healthy now, has gained a little of it back, and I still think she's just as hot as the first time I saw her. She always will be.

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bogwandis 0

Omg, I'm sorry!! I meant that towards "eean", not you "wyrdotter".....I think its wonderful that you care more about personality rather than looks :) My husband is the same way. The world needs more men like you and him!

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melange_fml 0

#38, you are an ASSHOLE, and you don't deserve any happiness whatsoever. Your wife should not be your trophy, to take out so other people can admire her. You need to love her regardless of what she looks like. If you don't, you don't deserve her.

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Jessaly_fml 0

This is why I would never date a fitness trainer or athlete. Or marry one...made this decision long ago.

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kc_chicken 0

this guy clearly doesn't value the marriage and vows he took. marriage is for BETTER or for WORSE. sickness and in health. this guy only wants to be married for the better. i'd hate to see how he'd react to a REAL problem in their marriage.. like real "worse" incidents: cancer...death of a child...terrible car accident. this guy doesn't deserve to be married. ugh this jerk angers me so much. i highly doubt she's that much unfit anyway...you would really have to be fit for this guy to like you let alone marry you...poor girl YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL AND DESERVE BETTER!!!!

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