You should put your foot down! My MIL just had 3 major back surgeries and she tried to come by and pick up my daughter, even though she hadn't been cleared to drive. She is on heavy pain meds. I turned her away didn't even let her in the house and called her doctor. She doesn't speak to me now but that is OK. My daughter and the lives of others are far more important than her feelings.

Don't let the inlaws rule over your life, OP! They don't own you or your husband.

Stand your ground! There is no reason for her to be driving and putting other lives at risk. I cannot believe she lied to her son's surgeon. That's so dangerous. (which you already know)

Good luck! In laws are hard sometimes but lives matter more then her feelings so good luck!

Good! Stand your ground and don't give even an inch!

I'm... speechless. She LIED to a surgeon operating on her SON to FEEL good? Does she not have any sense at all? He could have died. That's her son! I can't imagine a mother who would ever willingly place their children in harm's way, but also can't imagine someone being that unutterably STUPID. Thank you for trying to mitigate the damage she causes, and for donning the gauntlets and getting ready for a fight. The FML community is behind you on this one.

Well...I don't want to be cliche, but she is actually his Stepmother. That really isn't the reason though, I think she honestly really believes everything she says is true, especially because my FIL will always, always back her up rather than cause a fight. Although it's funny how every lie she tells or every past history she reinvents is a fiction to make her look better. Like how she forgets she refused to let my husband learn to drive as a kid, and now brags to me about how well she taught him. She's very confrontational about it. I don't know if it's the psych issues or the pain meds that make her make things up but it's scary to watch.

I do not drive at night because of bad night blindness either. I understand. Hope everything gets taken care of.

*clap clap clap* Go, OP, Go!!! We've all got your back! :) I've dealt with driving issues with my grandma, and with her friends. I came from a very rural, very aged community. One of my grandma's friends was in an accident caused by age-related driving issues. She hit a high school kid (in his truck). It was low speed, thank god. Shook people up though. And scary thing was she was adamant that she didn't cause it - because she was so unaware, that she legitimately didn't realize what she'd done. It also is not terribly surprising to hear of elderly drivers driving the wrong way on the interstate, highways, roads, on/off ramps. I remember a handful of deaths (of elderly drivers, and of the drivers killing other people) caused by wrong-way driving, where the driver was completely unaware they were going the wrong way. I knew a past-retirement-age high school teacher die of a heart attack while driving on the highway, during morning commute. It was a sad thing, but also very fortunate it remained a single-car vehicle. And then, there's the people driving 20-30 mph on 65-75 mph highways...... One of my grandmas quite willingly gave up driving and her vehicle. The other talked to me about how horrible it was for everyone else to drive her. Her doctor intervened (thank god), and she's not supposed to drive anymore. She recognized that it was dangerous for her to, and recognized that it could put others in danger. But part of her still wanted to drive because of the independence factor. I think for a while, though, she'd still go for a spin. She doesn't anymore. It's sad. It really is. My heart aches for her. But my heart would ache a trillion times more if she ended up in an accident - especially one that would hurt her or, god forbid, someone else. Be strong. Don't back down. And know that what you're doing is for the greater good! :)

If her psych issues are bad enough she believes her own stories, then FIL should not be allowed to be her caretaker. If she's just lying and knows it, it's even creepier and sounds sociopathic. No regard for others safety, only her own image? Scary.

There are people with psych issues who are pathological liars and can't help but lie and enjoy it. She's being ridiculous OP. Good Luck with everything she sounds like she's gonna be tough especially if she lies about a lot. We support you Op!!

People sometimes forget that cars can be/are a weapon

in most states if you have had more than one seizure you cannot drive period I would contact the DMV to find out the process to get this woman's license revoked this is not an uncommon problem

if your cousin can't drive despite being on medication then they haven't been able to go 6 months without having a seizure. my brother has epilepsy and can drive as long as he continues his meds and has no seizures.