Patriarchy, Sexism, Education and Miscellaneous: Today, my mother sat me down to tell me that since coming home...

By liberatedwoman - 11/08/2009 14:57 - Oman

Today, my mother sat me down to tell me that since coming home from college, I sounded like "a liberated woman." She was disappointed and disturbed by this, and said that I should stop having strong opinions and ideals because it would make finding a husband for me difficult. FML

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By Mick_The_Disappointment - 11/12/2018 15:30

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softbonez 0

Tuesday 11 August 2009 20:11

Tell your mom to shut the **** up and that this isn't the 1950's.

drewpy 0

Tuesday 11 August 2009 20:12

Don't stop being "a liberated woman" everyone should use their brains and being willing to speak in a peaceful manor and have discussions on issues. Besides I would rather date a woman that can tell me that I am wrong and then we can discuss why I am wrong and find common ground. Keep it up, your doing the right thing.

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hir23 0

Tuesday 11 August 2009 21:28

Okay, just so you know, yes, some aspects of Oman could be more "Westernized". But for the most part, Oman is one of the safest and nicest places to live in. You might want to do a little more research before you start acting like living in Oman is like living a couple centuries ago. It's not. Bear in mind that it's a completely different, culture, religion, and system of government. But Omanis are happy with their lives. They are also some of the most hospitable and friendly people I've ever met. And Oman has only been modernizing since the last 35 years or so, when the current Sultan came into power. And for those who will now proclaim democracy is the only right way of government, consider this: I live in a country that is beautiful, clean, and safe, where I have never been discriminated against for any reason, learned to accept different cultures, made friends from all over the world, seen a way of life I never would have otherwise.... I went to an American school here, and pretty much everyone I know loves Oman. Oh, and did I mention there are no taxes here?

mezeek 1

Tuesday 11 August 2009 21:29

I bet your mom voted for Bush and McCain... Tell her Sarah Palin is a strong and opiniated woman.

DameGreyWulf 0

Tuesday 11 August 2009 21:36

MEOW! I wasn't saying it was all terribly behind the times. I understand that it's part of the culture. Yes, I'll admit I wasn't completely aware exactly how Oman works, but I wasn't attempting to imply that the west is better either. I was just saying that obviously her mother's way of thinking is becoming the past, and that if it all truly bugged her she COULD move elsewhere. I wasn't trying to tell her to burn the bridges of her homeland and culture. I would never imply democracy is the "correct" form of government. Different countries need different things. This next bit is out of curiosity: If there are no taxes, how does the government pay for things? Or does the government have so few things to pay for that it's not really an issue?

hir23 0

Tuesday 11 August 2009 22:36

Okay, no worries then. :) I'm a little defensive -- it's my home. Oil. I don't know if this is still true (I'm a little outdated with my statistics) but at one point 93% of the government's money came from oil exports. Granted, it doesn't have as much as Saudi or Iran, but it also has under 3 million people in the country (2003 census was 2.3 million, so I don't know what it is now). Except the government finally realized a few years ago that it will run out of oil eventually, so now they're focusing on tourism as a source of revenue. They're doing pretty well.

DameGreyWulf 0

Tuesday 11 August 2009 23:59

Thanks for the info, and yeah, oil can't last forever... there's less used every year, apparently. It's been hitting the bigger countries like Iran and Saudi pretty hard, I hear, even with the tourism outlets. Must be nice being a smaller country. I can understand being defensive, not only because it's your home, but also because the Middle East is kind of a hot button these days, so I'm sure you hear some stupid stuff all the time.

Moemoemoe_fml 0

Wednesday 12 August 2009 0:34

Wait... there are no taxes there?! I have a sudden urge to move to Oman. XD

cyxx 0

Wednesday 12 August 2009 8:05

Thank you hir23, for writing that first so that I didn't have to. I've never been to Oman myself, but I am disgusted with the "MIDDLE EAST? CLEARLY THAT MEANS OPPRESSION AND DISCRIMINATION!" theory that seems to run rampant.

postit_fml 0

Wednesday 12 August 2009 10:03

By the way, I also go to college in the US. I might know you. Oman is a small place. (the OP)

hir23 0

Wednesday 12 August 2009 21:46

I was thinking the same thing, that I might know you. But your screenname doesn't match the one on the original post...

postit_fml 0

Friday 14 August 2009 11:08

Yeah. I didn't have an fml account until after posting . I was surprised to have so many comments. I'm sure you can quiz me about something to know I'm the OP. I went to ISM. Did you got to ABA?

doubleAbattery 0

Tuesday 11 August 2009 21:32

And did you tell her that this isn't 1950?

keitorin 0

Tuesday 11 August 2009 21:33

thats horrible :X

dralligator 1

Tuesday 11 August 2009 21:39

Coming from someone who was raised in the Middle East too (Bahrain), I'll just say that there IS a much more liberal youth that some of the more archaic parents just can't understand. And if you're as open minded as your mum fears, chances are you'll find a guy who actually loves you, respects you and finds you intelligent rather than marrying you because of perceived religious duties.

sodahhhr 0

Tuesday 11 August 2009 21:41

make a sandwich

CFR 0

Tuesday 11 August 2009 21:44

Goodness... I sort of feel your pain though. Apparently I'm "too opinionated for one so small" =P I really hope that's not the reason why I'm still single =S

triplethreat13 0

Tuesday 11 August 2009 21:47

my aunt is a very strongly opinionated woman and she found a fantastic husband and they have kids and are living a great life. your mom is too old-fashioned.