this is the saddest fml I have ever read. OP I hope you ex get dysentery while stuck traffic

What a douchebag. I'm so sorry OP :(

I'm so sorry op, maybe you can smooth things up by telling your son that his dad is gonna be working outside the country for while. I really hope things get better for your family.

I've never felt sad about not knowing my dad. Hopefully your son doesn't take it personally.

For the first time in my life, I'm speechless. I'm so sorry OP. Much love to you and your son.

My neice is in a similar situation.. she's 7 now and hasn't seen her dad since she was 3 or 4. She misses him like crazy, and he actually wants to see her and be in her life, but he has a criminal past, and for all we know he could be in jail right now. Nothing serious like murdering or something, just drug related, but still not an environment for a 7 year old to be in. She would have nights like those where she'd cry all night for her dad. She's doing a little bit better now, my sister got married and she calls him daddy. She actually says alot "He's not my real daddy, but he's a good daddy." My point is, there will he will come to terms with the situation he's in and accept the fact that his dad's not around. He may have some resentment towards his dad and father figures, as to be expected, but he should be fine, just give it time, and keep reminding him that it'll be okay.

I'm so sorry OP. :( But you know, the best thing here is honesty. Will it hurt your son to learn of his father's abandonment? Of course it will. But you can help ease the hurt by assuring him that you will never leave him like that, and that sometimes grownups do things that aren't nice and hurt the people that they're supposed love. Depending on the age of your son, I reccomend maybe setting him up with a therapist to help deal with the emotional backlash.

Wow. But, and I know this is easily said, in the long run you and your son are better off without such a scummer in your lives. Time to move on and find somebody who is a good partner to you and a proper father to your child. Sounds like the original was only good for sperm donation.

What a ******' ********.

Tell your boy the truth. Tell him that you don't know when or even if he's going to see his father again. Tell him that you don't understand why he left in the first place. Tell him that his father did what he did because he didn't know how to be a dad to him. That he didn't know how to be a husband/partner to you. Tell him some people just don't know how to cope with themselves or how to leave a situation that they don't feel comfortable in without hurting others. Tell him that his father very well may have left as an act of love because otherwise he may have ended up hurting you two more. Tell him life isn't fair. Teach him that it's better to love and show compassion than to carry resentment towards someone who is incapable of reciprocating.