Brownie points for trying!

Subtract brownie points for failing so miserably

I don't see you're witty pun..

Your. Sorry, had to, thats my OCD kicking in.

I'm really pleased you've found something that works for you. Sad fact though, 20-40% of OCD sufferers make no improvement despite trying all forms of medical intervention, so it isn't always as easy as saying "Just go see a doctor/counselor".

It's always worth trying, sometimes it's about learning how to cope better rather that finding a cure, a friend of mine managed to reduce her anxiety connected to having OCD even though her symptoms didn't reduce.

I understand what you are saying and agree that Op should tell her that being yelled at over something like this is inappropriate. But in my opinion I wouldn't call this abuse. This seems more like an argument to me. Abuse, to me, is reserved for things a little more serious than this. If this happens every day then the term can come into place maybe, but I wouldn't call it abuse for a one time thing (that we know of). I only bring this up because I just think that word gets thrown around a bit too much and it seems like any boyfriend or girlfriend that doesn't like their ex seems to label them as "abusive."

I wouldn't characterize an interaction in which one party does all the yelling and the other party does all the apologising as an argument. That's a harangue. The gratuitous insults and overblown accusations are what make it abusive. An argument would be both sides presenting their reasons why the toilet paper should be one way or the other. On the one hand, the word "abuse" does get thrown around too much, partially because very few people will bother to dispute a woman's claims of having been abused by her husband, which makes it a "get out of relationship free" card for her, and gains her a lot of automatic sympathy. On the other hand, if she had OCD and he knows about it, then this is probably not the first time she's lashed out at him. I guarantee you that if a woman posted that her husband had yelled at her for being an insensitive bitch and not considering his needs, and she'd ended up apologising because he couldn't handle the toilet paper being the wrong way around, 90% of the people here would have said "Call the police and get out now before he starts beating you!" Whatever the case, for the sake of both OP and his wife, her behavior needs to stop immediately.

There are different degrees and its also how soon a person gets diagnosed and get the right kind of help plays a big factor as to how bad it gets. I was friends with someone who has OCD and depression in middle school to high school. She was on meds but she was still a wreck i stayed friends with her for two years before i had enough of her bit picking my personality. I feel like was a shitty friend that i gave up on her. Saw her again recently we are now juniors in college and she apologized for the shit she put me through. Now we are making plans to have dinner together sometime soon.

There are levels, but it's also worth remembering most people have little obsessive traits. Whether with neatness, or volume on the TV being even numbers (very common), something having to be organised in a set way. It's only a disorder if it negatively effects your life, the term is overused and used incorrectly a lot. Hoarding is one manifestation of it too, so not everyone with it is also obsessed with cleaning and such either.