Um, most families do help with some costs though so if someone gives you their word that they're planning to pay for something, you take that and spend the money that would have been used on that on another aspect of the wedding. That's what literally ever single person I know who has ever gotten married has done. You don't expect family to flake on you a month and a half before.

My momma does that a lot. What I do is, while she is promising something/agreeing, record it on your phone. Then when she denies it, you have solid proof.

Op should force her mom to pay like she is supposed to or steal a credit card. Actually, idk who pays for the wedding.

It should be the bride's side of the family that pays for it.

I would never talk to her ever again!

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Call J.G. Wentworth. 877-cash-now. Sorry OP the name made me think of this and now it won't go away.

I think you should still invite her, two wrongs don't make a right. Be the better person here. Downsize what you can to fit in your budget. You should always have your own backup, too. Make it small and nice, you can have tons of nice things on the cheap. If you want fancy dishes, party city or even your local 99 cent only store, or dollar tree carry nice glass dishes. Even wine glasses! Do what you want, but if you uninvite her you will regret it, especially for such a big day. I think talking this out may help.

I find that a lot of mothers plan the wedding they wanted for themselves for their daughters and while we object we do try to accommodate them at our expense. If your mother planned the entire thing and agreed to pay for it then, she should pay for it. If she can't afford the wedding she planned she should give you the money she did plan to spend and let you figure out what you can do for a wedding with that money and anything you have saved up.

do a FundMe fundraiser for idiots