boo-*******-hoo. You're not even a military wife yet and you already have the entitlement attitude. You knew what his job is before you accepted his marriage proposal. Put your big girl panties on, maybe get a job, and take care of yourself.

All of you military wives saying you're not civilians... yeah, you are. You think its difficult being married to a service member? Try being a service member yourself, with a service member for a partner, especially if you're not married and in different branches. We deal with twice as much shit.

that's not true u get bah that's money just to live while he's gone

that's what happens when you marry into the Army. should've gone Marines.

no BAH FOR U? why not? basic allowance for housing means the army pays your rent while your gone.u have to do a little notary paperwork but well worth it.

Woooow **** ur problem thats nothing compaired to wat ur fiance has to deal with like Dying! u inconsiderate bitch

Woooow **** ur problem thats nothing compaired to wat ur fiance has to deal with like Dying! u inconsiderate bitch

First off if they're not married he will not receive any BAH, so that's not a consideration. Second, she has every right to be upset about having to move in with her parents until he gets back. Both my wife and I were Sergeants in the Army, and I have been an Army spouse since I received my Med Discharge and what the people have to go through waiting for their loved ones to get back is not trivial. To just say "Oh boo hoo it's nothing compared to what he has to go through" is ignorant and cruel. Most likely you've never served in the Military and have no idea what it's really like for either the ones that deploy or the ones that stay back. Having experience with both, they are equally stressful and hard to deal with. Just sitting and waiting for someone you love to come back from a war zone is hard enough without you tools making her feel bad for worrying about what she has to deal with. While my wife was deployed she was actually more concerned that I was handling things ok, that's how it should be, each one concerned about the other equally. They're different types of issues, that doesn't mean one is more relevant or more serious. If he cares about her enough to marry her he should be concerned with what she has to deal with while he's gone, he shouldn't put his own problems before hers nor should hers be put before his but they are both relevant. He voluntarily joined the Military, he knew the risks and knew it could mean he would die thousands of miles from home so it's not like he wasn't prepared, same as countless others. No one that did the same should use that as an excuse to put their own issues or problems above someone they love. I highly suggest you get married before he leaves, just go to a courthouse and get it done. When he gets back then you can have a ceremony but it's more important that you are legally married before he goes. The majority of these people have no idea what they're talking about, make sure you're taken care of because it's going to be a very hard time for you while he's gone. I wish you and your fiance the best and hope he comes home safe.

WTF this isn't an FML. he's over there surviving the next day to see you you'll be fine he's gonna be gone for 4-6 months and it's your parents WTF? your family you'll get along and quit complaining.

It sucks that he's being deployed...but OP seems more concerned about not getting her own apartment than his deployment. At least she has parents to fall back on...I'm sure they feel SO appreciated that she's complaining about that on FML...