By guitarki - 26/04/2015 18:49 - United States - Monroe
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Hey, OP here. I made an account so that I could comment. When it happened, there was nothing I could say to her to make her stop. I asked her several times to please stop talking about it, and I was so embarrassed, but she wouldn't listen to me. I ended up just getting my stuff together and leaving. I'm not very close to the people in the group, so I felt uncomfortable with being so exposed to them. I talked to her afterwards in private and told her that it was really uncool of her to keep talking about it when I asked her to stop. She claimed that she didn't think it was that big of a deal, since when I told her at the time, I didn't say that it was meant to be a secret. I guess I just never thought to let her know that I didn't want her to blab to everyone about my personal issues. She also made sure to clarify to me that when she said it wasn't any of my business, she meant that it was not my conversation to butt into, even though I was literally right beside her. This incident made me realize that she really isn't a very good friend to me. She has never acted this way until recently, so I never thought to avoid telling her things. I do know that I'll definitely not be confiding in her anymore though.
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Stop telling her your business, then she will have nothing to run her mouth about. Like someone else here said, I would have turned the conversation around on her and started talking about her issues. Like not being able to trust her as a friend.
Hey, OP here. I made an account so that I could comment. When it happened, there was nothing I could say to her to make her stop. I asked her several times to please stop talking about it, and I was so embarrassed, but she wouldn't listen to me. I ended up just getting my stuff together and leaving. I'm not very close to the people in the group, so I felt uncomfortable with being so exposed to them. I talked to her afterwards in private and told her that it was really uncool of her to keep talking about it when I asked her to stop. She claimed that she didn't think it was that big of a deal, since when I told her at the time, I didn't say that it was meant to be a secret. I guess I just never thought to let her know that I didn't want her to blab to everyone about my personal issues. She also made sure to clarify to me that when she said it wasn't any of my business, she meant that it was not my conversation to butt into, even though I was literally right beside her. This incident made me realize that she really isn't a very good friend to me. She has never acted this way until recently, so I never thought to avoid telling her things. I do know that I'll definitely not be confiding in her anymore though.
That doesn't sound like a friend at all wtf. You're better off without her honestly.
jazzy_123
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I'm sorry, but **** her! it's none of your business? umm excuse me? you could have been 25 ft away, but the moment that bitch mentioned your name, it became your business. Forget her. there are way better people out there to talk to than her. This infuriates me because I can never believe how mean and inconsiderate people can be to their "friends". Pfft, **** her.
Ok first of all, the fact that she "claimed that she didn't think it was that big of a deal, since [...you] didn't say that it was meant to be a secret," is total BS. If you asked her MULTIPLE times to stop, then she knew you didn't like it, and a true friend would consider that a "big deal." Also, like someone said, of course it was your business! I honestly hope you have the strength of will to just stop being "friends" with her completely, but if you aren't able to, it's good that you have decided to stop confiding personal details to her: she clearly isn't trustworthy.
Wow, that's really inconsiderate! I'm sorry OP! :/
She must not have much going on in her life if she needs to blab about yours. Good for you for learning from this and moving on.
Now that right there is a literal definition of a bitch and you should tell you to go **** herself and leave. I'm a guy so if it was one of my friends I would have kicked his ******* ass.
You say you're no longer confiding in her. I'm sorry, but after that incident she would never hear from me again, I'd cut her off completely.
Forget not confiding in her! Please, please do not hang out with that individual anymore. She sounds toxic.
You better kick her ******* ass in public.
I'm so sorry OP. I don't know how old you are but I dealt with a lot of this kind of behavior when I was in highschool, and it really made me re-evaluate who I could consider a friend. By the time I finished college, though, I had found a solid group of a few people whom I have been friends with for years now. I'm sorry this friend turned out to be a bad apple but take it as a lesson learned and I hope you find some true friends soon enough.
She's an idiot. Even if she didn't know it was a secret at the time, she certainly shouldn't stopped when you told her to. Best part is, I'm sure if you started spilling her secrets she would feel some type of way.
AtherSheep
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I don't understand. As soon as she brings up anything about you aside from your name, age, how you are (like how you are doing good bad etc), and that's it. Anything more and it now becomes your business. If you have to ask her more than three times not to talk about something about you, she obviously doesn't understand the meaning of keeping her mouth shut about things that isn't her place to tell in the first place.
Telling you it's not any of your business (when it totally is) is classic "invalidation". I recently ditched my best friend for the same reason. He said something awful to me, and when I told him that wasn't cool, he told me that what I felt wasn't right. Also classic invalidation. Everyone experiences things differently. It doesn't mean anyone elses reaction is wrong, per se, it's just how they interpret things. Invalidating someones feelings by saying it's wrong or blowing off someones emotions is a very dangerous thing for a relationship.
what a cow! im sorry you had to deal with that, you have more strength than me i would have hit them!
She sounds like an amazing ****. Lose her.
wow... that must be sad! u really do need a new best friend!! anyway HOW THE FUC* IS THAT NOT ANY O UR BUSINESS??
really hope she isn't your best fried anymore
How can you un-fry something once it's been fried?
If you've fried something and it tastes like shit, you don't keep eating it. You throw it in the bin where it belongs.
Doesn't sound like much of a friend at all.
Yeah, because your own life is definitely not any of your own business. What are you doing, knowing about your own life? Gosh... But in all seriousness, I'm sorry this happened to you. I trust my best friend deeply and I'm sorry yours was not at all considerate.
The day you cut toxic people from your life is the day you realize you weren't happy around them to begin with.
And why is she ur best friend again???
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I'd reconsider calling her your 'best' friend
Quite the friend you have there OP. Surely hope you put her in her place and took up for yourself since she obviously has no respect for you! Definitely don't trust her anymore...