That's some serious pathology for a 9 year old, even in this day and age. Therapy?

Did any of you people saying YDI stop and think the OP had a reason to snoop? What if her daughter became withdrawn and wasn't willing to open up about it. My best friend was suicidal and her mother snooped in her diary and saved her life by getting her help

Probably. I mean if you just casually go through your daughters diary then you're a bit of a bitch

I think you're being to hard on yourself. As for the hateful rants your daughter is just going through a stage. All kids hate their parents at some point, normally it is closer to high school, but regardless she'll grow out of it. She also is probably upset that the boys she likes don't like her. Its all part of going through puberty. Good luck.

I say YDI for looking through your daughter's diary. Those rants could just be a way of venting her frustrations. I had an old exercise book (several, actually) that I used over many years to do that. It didn't mean I hated the people I ranted over, it was just a my way of getting those feelings out. It's sad though that she's thinking about whether or not boys are hitting on her. I don't think anyone that age should be concerned about that. And if OP had found out another way that didn't involved her invading her daughter's privacy, I would probably say to talk to her.

I wouldn't think too much of it. I wrote many angry diary entries about my parents even younger than 9. I even gave them letters about how I felt they wronged me and that I was going to run away. I turned out fine, I just wrote those things in the heat of the moment. Don't break the trust you and your daughter have by confronting her about it. You havent failed as a parent, OP. :)

I think you should've realized you were failing as a parent the moment you looked at your daughter's diary. Seriously, respect your kid's privacy.

I don't think it's right for people to comment that she failed as a parent because she read the diary. If anything this little girl needs help, 9 year olds should have far more innocent things on their mind than boys and being "hit on". I don't blame OP, I blame the sexual nature you see every where these days. Monitor what she watches and see if anything changes. But of course, this is just my opinion.

Kids have "crushes" and get pretend married when they are far younger than nine I don't think you daughter is over specialized or needs help. If you were expecting cute things in her diary it's probably because she's well behaved and pleasant. Maybe writing is her outlet

You shouldn't have been looking in her diary anyways. Diaries are where all the weird, personal, and often times irrational thoughts go.