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By Anonymous - 11/06/2014 21:38 - Australia - Granville

Today, I took a look at my 9-year-old daughter's diary, thinking it would be full of cute stuff. Instead, it was full of hateful rants against me and my husband, as well the boys at her school, who she called gay because none of them ever hit on her. It seems I've failed as a parent. FML

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You deserved it 20 768

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By Anonymous - 08/12/2012 19:30 - United States - Long Beach

Today, feeling very distant from my daughter recently, I decided to sneak a peek in her diary to see what was on her mind. The book was apparently one of those that play the sound of a woman screaming when opened improperly, and alerted everyone in the house to my actions. FML

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You deserved it 62 311

By Lisa - 16/12/2014 03:38 - United States - Lees Summit

Today, my 5-year-old daughter was asked by her teacher to write a letter to each member of her family to read during the holidays. Her letter to me said, "Dear mommy, come on. You could have done better than dad." FML

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You deserved it 4 373

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By familyofpsychos - This FML is from back in 2012 but it's good stuff - United States - Elkhorn

Today, I found a notebook my 12-year-old sister had been doodling in. Turns out the "doodles" were poems full of obscenities and descriptions of how she wanted to hurt herself. When I showed it to my mom, she accused me of writing the notebook myself to frame my sister. FML

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You deserved it 2 451

By Emptyspace - 25/06/2009 19:15 - United States

Today, I found my long lost diary and curiously read it. What's worse than finding out that your mother read your diary? Finding out that your mother wrote comments in it. FML

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You deserved it 4 186

Spawned a monster

By Anonymous - 30/10/2021 17:00

Today, I'm ashamed at ever having become a parent after I found out my daughter has been leading an online bullying campaign against a girl at her school who has disabilities, both mental and physical. Some of the language she was using in the online messages were just disgusting and unforgivable. FML

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You deserved it 382

By Anonymous - 09/08/2012 04:19 - United States - La Crosse

Today, I found one of my mom's old diaries that dated back to my infant days. I couldn't help but read a little. I'm now in great concern over how many times my mom wrote that she wanted to dunk me in the toilet or throw me against a wall. FML

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You deserved it 3 940

By ugh - 05/06/2010 23:49 - Canada

Today, my dad found and read my diary. Most of the entries were about how my father didn't respect my privacy. Then he phoned my aunt and read her passages from it. FML

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You deserved it 3 912

Next time? Never!

By Anonymous - 10/06/2014 20:06 - Barbados - Bridgetown

Today, my nineteen year-old daughter handed me a book on raising children and said, "Maybe you'll do better next time." FML

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You deserved it 16 518

Wise kid

By Anonymous - 23/11/2020 17:02

Today, I had to give my four year-old daughter some tough love, which I hate doing. When she ran away crying, my son, her twin brother, looked at me and said, "You should be ashamed of yourself." FML

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You deserved it 436

By yingyang2 - 06/01/2011 02:19 - United States

Today, I have been teaching my 5 year-old step-daughter how to read and write. She came bounding up to me with a piece of paper and said, "look what I did". It was a letter that said "My dad misses my real mommy, not you". FML

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You deserved it 5 003

whiskeey 14

Thursday 12 June 2014 7:33

Yes OP you have failed as a parent for reading your 9 year old child's diary.

Eleanor6141 11

Thursday 12 June 2014 5:50

the first thing that came to mind was the movie "orphan" ....

Comments

mkcherry 14

Thursday 12 June 2014 7:57

Unless you think your child is in danger snooping is just rude and disrespectful. I don't go through my significant others things and I don't go through my child's or foster child's and I expect the same from everyone in the family. Kids need guidance but they don't need big brother.

Bekll 31

Thursday 12 June 2014 8:01

Wow. I periodically look at my diary I mostly wrote in when I was 9 and 10 and it's full of innocent random ramblings on my friends, family, cats, cartoons, movies, toys, silliness, memories, birthdays, drawings and poetry. Now it's about hate, homosexuality and premature dating? What's happened?

broncofan1 3

Thursday 12 June 2014 8:17

Ur life must be fn lame considering u read a 9 year olds diary. Sad sad lady u must be

jewelia13 12

Thursday 12 June 2014 9:14

You're 36 and you spell like that?!

Axel5238 29

Thursday 12 June 2014 8:40

At 9 that worrying and privacy comes in when you get older and don't feel comfortable talking about certain things. However, when it comes to sex, drugs and stuff the can really negatively affect your life the parents should know. Also lots of stuff is age appropriate teens having sex, drugs and what not could screw them over at a young age.

reda432 3

Thursday 12 June 2014 8:47

That's why it's called a diary

SarahRose2169 4

Thursday 12 June 2014 8:57

It's your fault for reading her diary. That's her personal journal for her to write her true feelings that NOBODY ELSE is suppose to read. If she wanted you to know these things, she'd tell you. My mom read my diary when I was around her age, even went as far as writing notes in it. I can't explain how pissed I was. She's entitled to her privacy no matter what the age.

Axel5238 29

Thursday 12 June 2014 9:48

You can't be serious she's 9 kids do a lot of stupid stuff. There have been 3 fmls recently of kids getting arrested. Right to privacy is earned not given. You can't do stupid shit and wonder why your parents check on you. Parents will check on their kids anyway.

91hayek 31

Thursday 12 June 2014 11:17

Personally, I think its inverted. You don't necessarily earn your privacy but you can lose it. This means you give the child a baseline of privacy and ownership of certain things. Then when they abuse it you take it away for a period of time, or you put restrictions. Children (and people in general) respond better when they are given ownership of things, as opposed to being monitored. They will clean their rooms and help with other chores if they feel like its theirs to begin with. They will feel responsible for their time and choices. If they have to earn it it will be seen as a luxury, not a right, and they will envy other children who have it; they will resent the prerequisites you put for them to earn it. They will take any chance they can to get their freedom when they realize they can lie to you and that you can't physically stop them.

Jupsi_fml 12

Thursday 12 June 2014 9:12

Maybe you could start by having YOU helped with your relationship WITH her. That's how you consider someone. If you immediately send her to be treated in the first place, of course she will feel humiliated and it will certainly hurt her feelings. A relationship equals two people, three with her father now. BTW, you totally deserved it, there is no intrusion worse than reading your kids's diary (and I know what I'm talking about since my mother read mine as a teenager... and told me off >< never been so humiliated !) (sorry about my english)