If u have to read her diary how is it a surprise you've failed as a parent?

I haven't stopped laughing since i read this. At least on the bright side, she's only 9 so you still have time to set her straight!

I found it interesting that so many people said "Don't go through her stuff, don't look in her diary" but then - if these anger issues had have escalated into her hurting someone - pretty much every person would have told the OP she was a horrible parent for NOT monitoring her daughter's belongings and checking in on her diary.

Judt because she wrote it in her private diary, it does not mean she means every word. If you encourage her to do sport that might channel some of her anger. And talk to her instead of spying in her! You don't seem to know her much

When I was a child, my mother read my diary aloud for the whole family. A few years later, she went through my private papers, my drawers, my room, everything. Result? I do not trust that woman with any of my personal choices or thoughts, we do not have deep conversations and I do not share my life with her. She missed all big turning points in my life, and we have zero closeness. I do not trust her. Children need their privacy! Do you want to end up like that with your own child? I do not have children, yet, but I will be very sure to respect their privacy. I want to build up a trustful relationship, I do not want to have my kids come home scared if their stuff has been gone through when they were away. Shame on you!

Failed not you should she is raised in good environment. She hasn't had bad relationships that u weren't aware of. Her negativity can be improved over time

Wow. I can't even imagine what she'll be like when she is a teenager.

When I was young I kept a fake diary and a real one. The real one was in a notebook with my school stuff, the fake a 'diary' under my mattress. I made sure the fake was full of stuff that would freak people out and let me know they violated my privacy. Never came up, but I felt clever for doing it.

Your first failure was reading her diary. Is it such a bad way to express her anger?

My oldest daughter is 5. Every night when we put her to bed we ask "what was the best thing about today?" and "Did anything make you sad today?". We're teaching our children from a young age to share the ups and downs daily so it becomes a habit to talk about what's bothering them. I'm not sure what I'll do when/if any of my children start keeping a diary or journal. Hopefully they'll feel comfortable talking about stuff so there will be no need to pry.