Something something... this economy... yeah, working is good, it gives a sense of accomplishment and self worth. Even if op stays at home it would likely be good for her.

K

Exactly, couldn't have said it any better than that

Thank you, No. 88. I am merely telling it like it is.

Read the ENTIRE post. The mother is sponging off the OP. She doesn't give a **** about the OP, she only cares about the OP's paycheck.

OP is 27 and apparently has been helping since the mother doesn't have a job. And just because the mother has been paying for OP while growing up doesn't make him/her owe the mother anything. He/She didn't choose to be born. It's the parents responsibility to care for the child until they are old enough to care for themselves.

It was OP's moms RESPONSIBILITY and OBLIGATION to do that for HER child. OP will have to do the same when he/she has their own kids.

For the love of God, people, the past tense of 'pay' is 'paid' not 'payed.'

I can't stand grammatically incorrect people. I don't mind spelling with u instead of you but theres only soo much anyone can take. Lol

I agree. People keep saying that they "owe" it to the parent because they gave birth to them. Newsflash, nobody asked to be born so we dont owe them crap. Maybe some respect depending on how they treat thr kids, but thats about it. Unless they live with them past 19 and dont pay or do anything to help

24- When Momma decided to open her legs and get pregnant, she decided to care, AND PAY, for the child until the child became of legal age to care for him/herself! It's Mommas responsibility to PAY for the child! OP owes their Mother nothing! If anything, SHE should be helping OP through college! Not OP paying his mothers bills just because she PAID for OPs childhood! That's what a mother is supposed to do! OP, get out of there as fast as you can! You love your Momma! That's a given! And you can't change that. But YOU need to take care of YOU! Momma is a grown-ass adult! She can take care of herself! FYL, though... I'm sorry, OP! I know it is hard... But BE STRONG! You'll make it! :)

By the sound of the FML, the OP wasn't just paying rent or board (which is fair enough if he is still living with his mom in his 20s). He was paying for EVERYTHING to the point where his mom didn't even need to get a job. His mom sounds like a moocher tbh.

You said it. I grew up in an abusive household so I feel that I owe my parents absolutely nothing. They feel differently and harp on me to dump my husband and come live with them, so I can cook and clean for free and provide round-the-clock nursing care down the road when they are too old to function independently. I 'owe' them since they gave me the gift of life (funny, my brother, their 'golden boy' owes them nothing despite being their favorite). In exchange, I will give up my independence, be 'on-call' to cater to their whims 24-7-365 and surrender my money to them 'for expenses' which means I'd be subsidizing them so they wouldn't have to dip into their own funds, thus leaving more for my brother in their will, where he is the primary beneficiary of their substantial estate (I am getting a few scraps so I can't sue for an equitable distribution). They honestly think I'm so stupid I can't see that there is nothing in this deal for me except a return to the slave's life I lived as a child/teen. No thanks. I'll live with my swell husband and our daughter.