he's not a jerk for wanting to break up. It's not spasificly because she's depressed. He didnt know that yet.

speaking as someone who is around nineteen months into a depressive episode and seven into a relationship; depression is a mental illness. it screws with your head completely; and to that ****** who said if she really was suicidal she would have done something, **** you. i am currently suicidal - eventually i told my counsellor about it and thus the means through which i had planned to commit suicide with (something that happens a lot with depressives...) have been taken away. i desperately do want to do it - which, to those who have never been truly suicidal, probably sounds stupid - but lifes a struggle and a hard piece of shit right now. the reason why people who are suicidal sometimes dont act on it is because there is emotional and logical thinking - depression affects you biologically and emotionally mainly, but it can also affect logic quite a lot. that being said, i FEEL like i really want to die, to end it, whatever, but i KNOW that people dont think suicide is a good thing to urm.. do for a reason. and i KNOW that im sick right now, but when i am better i wont think like that. now onto my relationship; i only informed my boyfriend six months in of my depression; its something that i feel guilty and ashamed of but i could see that the way i acted and felt and thought was affecting him a little... and a couple of times i have had to call him just to distract myself from suicidal thinking. something that i really dont want to do, but i KNOW that i should. where the end of the relationship is concerned, i think i would care more if i wasnt depressed actually. why? because i see everything negatively now anyway. its hard to believe that he loves me or even finds me attractive, but i love him with everything i've got... depression stops you caring about a lot, but i care about him more than he can ever know. and his happiness is far more important to me than mine; if this girl really loved him, she would rather he be happy. and if she were truly depressed, a boyfriend would not take that away. yes, i love mine - he makes me feel less... alone. and its a reason to get out of bed in the morning. but i know not to rely on people because they will probably never be permanent. im not going to let myself believe that we are always and foreverr and this great disney fairytale - and i know that breakups are painful and can be hard to cope with - but the human brain is programmed to fall in love many times over a lifetime, and guys, well... just are rarely the kind that want to be with you forever. but i get to be with him for now and he wont tell me anything other than that he is happy with me (yup unfortunately im the jealous type... i try not to be. i get that its stupid and unnecessary.) but its nice to have him to help me through this. basically; the guy should tell her honestly, and if she truly cares for him, she will want him to be happy more than anything else. if she is really depressed, he can't take that away. sorry for that "little" speach gays. btw "****", i think im in love with you.

actually you could be unhappy forever, if you have clinical depression and it becomes treatment resistant.

Well, you can't pity date her, if you don't like her, break up with her. I advise you to tell her parents to take her to counseling to deal with her personal issues. Yea, I wouldn't want someone to kill themselves for me but I wouldn't want to be dating someone who I didn't love.

You'll hurt her more if you pity date her. :/ Do the right thing, don't string her along. Chances are, you might leave her for someone else when you find them, and think of how she will feel then. Make it as clean of a break as possible!

hey, if you found out tat your gf was suicidal n depressed from her mum, i guess tat means shes been acting normally around you. from this piece of information, i respect your gf. ppl, pls stop saying the gf's being attention-seeking or manipulative. maybe being with this guy gave her a new perspective to life, brought her a lot of happiness, so shes not depressed now. i agree tat a happy relationship isnt the solution to depression, but sometimes certain people can come into your life n bring so much goodness, you know? unconditional love n kindness can do so much, even if it wasnt intentional. you must be a really wonderful person, OP. (: but i agree tat staying with her out of pity is not feasible, n im sure she doesnt want charity. i just hope you 2 can stay friends.. of cos, idk if tats the case, n these are just my humble opinions. (:

mayb they realised and this is just a plot to keep the relationship going, nevertheless that suks!!!

OP - I'm suddenly moved by your story. Let us help you help her. I want to organize a benefit with a website tie-in. I'll check to see if needybitch.org is still available. Once we get it online (cannibalcorpseXD has a server he can donate that needs some work), we are going to raise money to get this chick a subway pass. I have learned, from FML posters, that there is a legion of hobos out there riding mass transit just waiting to form "a relationship" with female passengers. We CAN fill the void you will be leaving in her life if you'll let us! We can also buy her one of those realistic cardboard cutouts they have at the gas station that the functionally retarded are fighting with for smiling at them to keep her company. Until then, let's join virtual hands in prayer for you, your soon to be ex-girlfriend, and her manipulative bitch mother...

OH MY GOD!! That is just not something you should tell your daughter's boyfriend!

give her a chance a while longer before u make a decision to dump her. or as someone else said. try n get her to dump u. you dont want her to kill herself after u two break up. you will somewhat feel at fault.