The fact that he let feelings for somebody else develop before breaking up with his gf makes it seem like he was leading his girl on until something better came along. Of course there are exceptions to this, but not only did he dump his girl for somebody else (which already hurts more than necessary), to add insult to injury, he employed the help of this new girl to do his dirty work! What a coward. Already such a hurtful breakup for his ex.. Imagine the new potential partner of someone you love being involved in such a personal matter. That alone makes him a douche.

Breaking up with someone before going out with someone else is honorable. Having that someone else "help you break up" with the first person is...less so.

#17, ahh yes because everyone has the ability to control their feelings for someone. It's not like love at first sight is a really thing which can occur, even while in a relationship. I know this may be hard to believe, but the normal people (aka not you) can't just turn off their feelings for others, even new ones that develop, once in a relationship.

I think he is just young and childish, so judging him by adult relationship standards is a bit unfair.

#21 - Did I not say there are exceptions to the situation? I personally don't believe in love at first sight but I never mentioned it in my original comment. I didn't say anyone could control their emotions, but in order to fall for someone else and then promptly break up with your partner means (not always, but a lot of the time) that your relationship wasn't working out for a while and you had obviously stopped loving that person. That is the best time to cut ties with that person, not when you have already found the replacement. But that wasn't even my point. My point was this guy involved someone else in the break up, and not just anyone else, but the replacement girl! Do you not see my point? It is a million times worse than just having a guy break up with you! Not only is she being dumped for someone else, but a break up is supposed to be private and he made it incredibly hurtful and humiliating by involving that other girl. I don't know how I'm 'not normal' because I think this makes him a douche, but thanks for trying to insult me. Lol

#21 it has nothing to do with feelings and everything to do with actions. No one said he should turn his feelings off or ignore them, so stop bashing 17. It is incredibly disrespectful and immature to use the new person OP had feelings for to end a relationship that he was currently in. If he was mature enough to be in a relationship with the first girl he should have ended it respectfully and with her feelings in mind as well, not just thinking about this new girl that supposedly likes him. Whether or not someone can help their feelings is not an excuse to act however the **** they want and it doesn't excuse them from the consequences of their actions

in my experience its perfectly normal for girls to have a new boyfriends about 5 days after they break up with their current boyfriend. if i take a look at my female friends and their breakups this is almost always the case. i've even been such a new bf and i've also lost girls to such new boyfriends. honestly if you no longer want to be with your current SO wether thats because you met somebody knew you're crushing on or wether you're just not feeling it anymore doesn't matter. staying with someone you'd be ready to leave but don't because you don't have anything better is worse in my opinion. this is the first time i've ever witnessed someone being chewed out for this but of course this time its a man leaving his gf not the other way round.

#31 You obviously don't get the point, which a few people seemed to be be confuse by. He is not a douche because he left his gf for another girl. Although there were probably signs that their relationship wasn't right and if he led her on waiting for a replacement, that isn't right. The biggest reason he's a jerk though, he already had another girl, and instead of privately breaking up with his gf, he instead not only got someone else to do it, but employed the girl he was leaving his gf for to break with her. Do you not see how this is a dick move? Also, I don't know what girls you know, but not a lot of them, I'm willing to bet the majority, have a new bf after 5 days. And still, even then, there's a difference between breaking up with someone and starting a new relationship early after, and actually leaving your current SO for someone else. I think people should stop trying to justify this, no matter what way you spin it, the OP is still a jerk.

I have no idea why everyone thinks OP is a douchebag. He wasn't happy with his current GF so he tried it with someone who made him happier. It's not like he cheated.

a possibility but a very heavy accusation if there are no clear indications