Kids, Health and Parenting: Concerned parent

Concerned parent

By trying - 24/09/2023 22:30 - United States

Today, I tried to nicely talk to my daughter about her rapid weight gain. Having a family history of weight-related illness, I felt it was necessary. I offered to get thyroid tests, teach her to buy healthy food, and start routine exercise. She told everyone I called her a cow and had fat-shamed her. FML

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By sphear880 - 21/05/2021 19:59

Today, I have discovered that my daughter is struggling with anorexia. When I sat down to talk with her about it, she said it’s because, "all the other kids at school keep calling her fat." She was underweight before, and has now gone to being severely underweight. FML

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Eat Y'self Fitter

By Shnur - 05/04/2009 04:25 - United States

Today, my patient, a chubby little girl, stood on a scale to measure her weight. She was 5 years-old and weighed 65 lbs. I started giving her advice on eating healthy: fruits, vegetables, and more greens. She turned to her mother with shocked look and said, "But mommy, the doctor is fat too!" FML

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**** your "beach body" noise

By that’s not how it works - 16/07/2021 02:01 - United States

Today, my daughter expressed wanting to lose weight so I took her to a licensed dietician nutritionist to get her a healthy eating plan, and even made her an appointment with a personal trainer to get her on track. I walked in on her eating a whole box of laxatives, because "this way is faster." FML

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Health and wellbeing

By fuck - 21/08/2015 18:22 - United States - Somerville

Today, I scolded my son at a buffet after he pointed at an obese woman in a motorized wheelchair and asked how anyone could let themselves get so unhealthy. As I lectured him on genetics and thyroid problems, she rolled past with a plate stacked with an obscene amount of fried food. FML

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By Fatty1970 - 23/05/2011 01:33 - United States

Today, I told my kids that our family dog was getting too fat and we should give him a little less food. My youngest daughter whispered to her sister, "Mommy's fat and we still give her food." FML

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Hush

By furious parent - 03/07/2019 18:00

Today, I caught my mother telling my 11-year-old daughter that if she wants to be happy in life, she needs to start exercising now, because fat can creep up on you, and rich guys never marry fat girls with nice personalities. I was fuming. FML

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By me - 06/05/2013 00:56 - United States - Floresville

Today, my 6-year-old daughter walked into the bathroom where I was grumbling about my weight. Seeing how upset I was, she took my hand and said, "Mom, you're not fat. You just look fat." FML

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Keeping up appearances

By vanessax - This FML is from back in 2012 but it's good stuff - United States - Crown Point

Today, my seven-year-old told me to lose weight. Her reason? There's a family fun day coming up at her school and she is embarrassed. FML

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By Anonymous - 23/12/2016 00:22

Today, a coworker told me I was "fat shaming" them by discussing weight loss with other coworkers. FML

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By preggo - 04/12/2009 00:02 - United States

Today, I asked my mom if she could include mashed potatoes and gravy with dinner. She then went on to yell at me about my "unhealthy eating habits" and how I've "gained a lot of weight in the past few months". I'm pregnant. FML

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Gubbon 17

Tuesday 26 September 2023 1:38

Saying what OP did is not fat-shaming, though.

cpguru24 16

Wednesday 27 September 2023 14:21

Welcome to 2023 .....

Comments

UsernameNotRandom 10

Monday 25 September 2023 8:42

Unfortunately, that is the way she is perceiving it. Regardless of her age, I can understand. She will see it as an attack. Give her time. You've talked to her. When (and if) she wants to change it she will. As someone who has struggled with weight for 10 years - it is upto me to know what I want and do what is necessary to get there. No one else telling me about my weight will change my weight. You've shared your concern, now give her time and don't mention it again. I will also add at some point you may need to have a heart-to-heart to explain you weren't calling her a fat cow OR alternatively, compliment her when she shows you a new outfit and ALWAYS support her no matter what size she is. Parenting is hard. You are doing fine OP.

RichardPencil 30

Monday 25 September 2023 16:09

You did fat-shame her, even if she deserved it. Did you actually call her a cow?

Vesi 29

Monday 25 September 2023 21:14

@RichardPencil No one.. not a single person deserves to be fat-shamed. *Especially* if it is actually health related. She might have hypothyroid and/or PCOS and many other possible *medical* reasons for rapid gain. OP, she feels attacked. Honestly, all you can do is leave it alone, now. Simply offer to help her when she is ready to work on her health and drop the subject. I will note you haven't mentioned if she is a teeanger or adult. Teenagers especially are emotionally delicate. I know it might upset you but it is her body and only she can decide what to do with it.