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By Anonymous - 27/09/2016 12:28 - Italy - Verona

Today, my fiancé and I had to attend a wedding. Problem is, I suffer from a severe form of social anxiety. Since I was getting too close to a panic attack, he suggested drinking some wine to help me stay calm, and it worked. Up until I got drunk and threw up in the middle of the restaurant. FML
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PoorSharkie 5

sounds like that was a little bit more than "some" wine.

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Fixme 5

Anxiety is a heavy burden, I know. I hope you can get some help with it. Until then, I hope you can find that fine line between too little and too much wine. Good luck.

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Mr_Mole 24

Why does everyone suffer from anxiety these days?

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ronbach 8

Its like ADD or gluten "intolerance". Because there is no definitive test, the signs and symptoms are based solely on what the person says they feel, and its diagnosis is based on elimination of more obvious causes, its easy for anyone to have it. you cant prove they dont have social anxiety or ADD if they say they do.

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Mr_Mole 24

It really is. It's the new wrist cutting or OCD. It's almost cool to say you have social anxiety.

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Mr_Mole 24

It's a catch all term for being awkward.

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NuttyProfessor 7

Because it is one of the most common mental health problems, and always has been.

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GhostFox 33

Because the world and people in it can really suck. A few types of sucky people that have been demonstrated in earlier replies to this comment. The social anxiety "trend" isn't new- there have been studies after studies about how the way social structures are working in the USA is LITERALLY making people more and more prone to emotional and mental disorders. There's been at LEAST one study on the link between social expectations, depression, and social anxiety that is comorbid with depression. Because social anxiety isn't just being awkward, it's abnormal brain activity. So yeah, a rather notable portion of the population does have social anxiety, and has for a while. What's changed is that now it's so common that people can talk about it without being shunned like lepers for acknowledging they don't fit the display case they're told they have to fit into.

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TheDoctorDonna 23

31, There actually is a lot of testing to be diagnosed with ADD/ADHD. I had to go through it in third grade and I went back in 5th. It took about 8 hours a day for 2 days. It's not just based on how you feel, it's on how you react and how well you can pay attention. The doctors observe you sitting in a room and they ask you math/reading questions for a while and they will see how you act and how well you can focus on what they're asking and not anything besides that. Since I have sever ADHD it was obvious because I was bouncing off the walls and barely answering the questions but still. I do agree that a lot of people just say they have ADD/ADHD but in order to get on medication you need to go through these tests. Or at least that's my experience with it all.

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GhostFox 33

If you don't have a medication for your anxiety, you should look into seeing a psychiatrist and having one prescribed, if possible. Yes, it can be sucky to have to have medication for something like anxiety, but "mind over matter" type things only go so far. There's no more shame in treating an emotional injury than there is in treating a physical one. That said, I'm assuming you don't have a medication or didn't have it on you, since mixing sedative and alcohol is an AWFUL idea. When I'm getting close to a panic attack or getting overstimulated at a public event, I go to the bathroom, staircase, or some other location that isn't crowded- some people go to their car, turn the A/C way up, put on a blindfold, and turn on music that calms them. If it really comes down to it, find the person the event is for, apologize, explain if you feel the need to, and leave. It's better than self medicating with alcohol and nearly giving yourself alcohol poisoning- and if you vomited, your body at the very least felt that was a concern. If you HAVE to use alcohol to self medicate for some reason- and I still don't advise it- keep food in your stomach, alternate between alcohol and water, and keep in mind it takes a minimum of three hours for one serving of wine to leave your system. Good luck, and I hope the hangover wasn't too bad.

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Moerighan 23

You poor thing, I feel for you and I know that feeling well. Alcohol can definitely help but it can go too far, hopefully your husband will be able to read the signs next time.

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colo16_fml 10

I used to do the same thing then I tried therapy. Cognitive behavioral therapy worked wonders on my social anxiety! People don't understand how real this is!

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ThePaperDragon 31

Anxiety is a massive reason for me never drinking much. If you're having an attack, I find it best to find somewhere secluded. I also never go anywhere without my earbuds, just in case I need to help wash bothersome noises out with something calming. Also, as others have said, look into possibly having proper medications prescribed to you so that you can avoid self-medication in the future.

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katykills 15

I hope you and your fiancé are eloping!! :)

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LyricaSilvan 29

I hate to say YDI, but you kind of do. I feel for you, but you made a poor decision, and so did your fiancé. He shouldn't have told you to drink to fix your anxiety, and you shouldn't have listened to him. It's hard enough to think straight when you're having an anxiety attack; I know that from personal experience. Doing something that inhibits your judgement on top of that is bound to end poorly for all involved.

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LyricaSilvan 29

Granted, in this case, judgement wasn't the issue, but I doubt pouring wine into your stomach while feeling anxious helped anything either way. I don't know about you, OP, but when I get anxious, I get nauseous. I probably would have thrown up without the alcohol, let alone with it.

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justwillie62226 4

and that my friends is just one more reason that weed is better for you

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species4872 19

You know there's going to be another FML about this. Today, at my wedding..........

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stellasue11 38

do you get anxiety meds from at doctor? sounds like it would help you....

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