I wanna be your dog

By Anonymous - 12/11/2023 20:00

Today, my wife lost her patience with her aunt but because she can't say anything to her, she takes it out on me. Then she also blames everything on me, in that I didn't do enough to make it stop. I went against my family and relatives to be with this woman, but I get treated as a dog. FML
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Same thing different taste

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If this is constant, long term behaviour then you may want to consider that you are in an abusive relationship and that your family may have been correct in their reservations about your 'wife'...

OP, that’s a tough situation. It’s pretty human, you aren’t the only one something like this has happened to - But that doesn’t make it right! My wife also has a tendency to share her frustrations and upsets and of course I’m the only other one here… All I can say is that some degree of this is pretty common and the best thing seems to be to calmly remind her that it’s not my fault she’s upset and that there is no reason to yell… But occasionally I get upset… If the situation is bearable for you, remind yourself that that you are not perfect either. And that in a way this shows that you are her “safe space” and that’s mostly a good thing. But also remind her not to take out her frustrations on you… Important lesson here - Nobody wants to hear someone vent!

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OP, that’s a tough situation. It’s pretty human, you aren’t the only one something like this has happened to - But that doesn’t make it right! My wife also has a tendency to share her frustrations and upsets and of course I’m the only other one here… All I can say is that some degree of this is pretty common and the best thing seems to be to calmly remind her that it’s not my fault she’s upset and that there is no reason to yell… But occasionally I get upset… If the situation is bearable for you, remind yourself that that you are not perfect either. And that in a way this shows that you are her “safe space” and that’s mostly a good thing. But also remind her not to take out her frustrations on you… Important lesson here - Nobody wants to hear someone vent!

If this is constant, long term behaviour then you may want to consider that you are in an abusive relationship and that your family may have been correct in their reservations about your 'wife'...

next time listen to your family. Sometimes they actually do know better