No one, especially not I, said that they had to run to the altar. I just said that she needs to ask him where he stands on the issue. If he wants to but needs a little time, then that's fine. However, if he's just with her until something better comes along, then she needs to decide what she wants. At any rate, after a year and half they should be talking about where this thing is going. Wouldn't you want to know now rather than 5 years from now that he was just "having fun?"

#25 Oh it goes for some females as well....I doubt any woman wants to lose -her- networth either. But yeah, the OP said herself they were both joking (*refers people to comment #35*). Since they both understand the joke and everything there's no problem. And obviously if they're still young and they're not ready for marriage, they wouldn't be running around buying expensive engagement rings, so I don't see what everyone is making a fuss about :P.

If a guy is not ready to settle down, they generally don't like comments and jokes like that. You set yourself up and he didn't hesitate.

@ #49. That's all I'm saying. You have to take people at their word, especially when it concerns something as serious and commitment and marriage.

No offense. Get a life. When he's ready to propose to you, he'll propose. Geez.

Yeah....only a year and half?

Anyone telling you to walk away from your guy because of this, you shouldn't listen to. My (and I want to stress some of these points) *first girlfriend ever* when I was *fifteen* brought up the topic of marriage after dating me for *one* **week** and when I tried to say it's way too early, she dumped me. I suggest discussing it with him in a calm manner, when you're alone with him. Tell him you'd like to consider getting married. Then ask if he thinks it's too early. If he's not ready, don't act like you're going to leave him. That'll just cement his reasoning. Why would any guy want to marry a woman who's going to leave him just because he's not ready for marriage? It makes it seem like that's all that matters. Maybe you could propose what I did with one of my ex-girlfriends (obviously, we didn't last, but...): She wanted to get married, I wasn't ready. I proposed a 500-day countdown. If we were together at the end of 500 days, I'd buy her a ring, no matter what. She thought it was cute, accepted...and, well, like I said, we didn't make it. But if you've already been together a year and a half, there's a chance he might be okay with the idea (and if he's anything like me, he'll have forgotten he agreed to it in a few months, haha).

#58 - Really? Quite often its the bride's family that pay for the wedding (not always, of course). And in some cultures they actually have to pay a dowry :P. Also its not always a case of 'rich guy marries woman with less money'. It can be the other way around too. Sure there's the ring, but that's just one small thing. (Unless they go seriously overboard with the diamonds...)

Ba dum ching! HAHAHA

@ #57 (Brianna) We should go have a drink. That's all I was saying. In any of my comments, whether it be about this post or any of the others, all I have ever wanted to stress is open communication to make sure everyone involved is on the same page. Life is TOO short to be anything but happy, and how happy will she be if she gets 5 years down the line and finds out she was dating with different expectations and was a "starter girlfriend"? The poster claims that she posted this a joke, and that may very well be. However, we didn't know that until she said something.