So you want OP to painfully wait for a retraction, that most likely isn't going to happen, after his dad's first response was of such hateful manner? You want OP to have a relationship with his dad while having to hold on to the painful memory of his dad's rude comments? You're spewing utter bullshit. First, OP can break news of his own personal life however he chooses. Secondly, you're telling OP to practice denial by believing in a false sense of possible acceptance (that most likely won't happen) and to hold on to a hateful toxic person. No thank you, sir. Tsk tsk.

Its also the fathers right to be accepted in his reaction to being told over an app and not face to face. If the OP was scared to tell him for physical retaliation then his need to know was never a NEED to know. There is a reason to tell people you want to have in your life the truth about yourself, don't disrespect them by being a coward and telling them on a very impersonal app

I think you are jumping to the conclusion that Dad is incapable of adjusting to this. Close family deserve a second chance at least. If Dad ultimately continues to be unaccepting and homophobic then your advice is good. But the relationship may be salvageable. I really think OP did a disservice to himself and his family by choosing such an impersonal way to communicate such a personal issue. I understand that there are families who react with violence, and if that might be the case, a phone call is a better option.

Indeed! What a dick...

Well, wouldn't be the first homophobic jerk who got caught with his pants down while having a very manly company...

Even better than matching with him on Grindr