He's a certain kind of bush hippe isn't he?

If he's that crazy then you are way better off without him.

Y'all are some ignorant *****. Seriously. Get off your high horses and give the man a break. I, too, would do ANYTHING to have a chance to be back with the man that was ripped from my life. It's not something you "get over." OP, I'm assuming you knew about this before getting into the relationship? Be there for your man, as much as he's pushing you away, that's what grief does. If you love him, you'll give him a chance to sort his feelings out. Having dreams like this are severely confusing and painful.

Ok I am going to play the bad guy. 1. This guy did a complete 180 on OP over a dream; that is NOT normal by any stretch of the imagination considering the content of said dream. 2. He believes that OP is standing in the way of a real relationship and feelings with a DEAD girlfriend. There is no standing in the way of that relationship because there CANNOT be one. Ever. Its extremely mentally unhealthy to think that he can have something with his dead girlfriend. 3. And finally, Op this is addressed to you, take him to a councilor, there are deep seated issues with this man and if you really want to stay with him then try and help him come back to reality. This is a sad situation and you are not to blame for this, he is.

#76 true love only intensifies with age as your hormones can be played out in certain manners and you're able to express emotions in a stable mind frame. True love stands through the test of time, when the flame burns out and the embers have been lost to the wind. What you feel now is still love, but it will only deepen over time. Never let that feeling go. And never, ever let someone tell you what you're feeling isn't so.

Come on...4 perfectly happy years? Either you were happy and he was not or you chose to ignore that he is a seriously twisted little psycho. This ended up good for one of you.

What a jackass.

I really feel for you OP. As much as he needs help don't forget, you need to make sure you yourself can cope with it the situation before helping him.

Can i just ask, how long did they know each other and were they together when she died? The reason i ask, is because death is a very traumatic experience for those close to the deceased. If they had known each other a long time or been close friends/partners when she died then it would still be hurtful to him. A couple of my friends died when i was in school, and i still think about them a lot. That's bad enough, i can't imagine what it would be like to lose a partner. I say that you should sympathise and be understanding, and try and help him get over her regardless of if it means you get back with him or not. Simply because that is what you should do for those you care about...

If being together for 4 years has taught you anything, it's how to be there for each other, be it as lovers or as friends. Having a lover die, especially at a young age could very well scar someone for the rest of their life. Unfortunate that he broke up with you, yes, but be there for him. He needs the emotional support.