"Today I wore a shirt with deep cleavage. An important man told me he appreciated me wearing a shirt with deep cleavage. FML" I mean - sure, it's awkward conversation, but we can't blame people from noticing that which we've explicitly put on display. It's not even like the guy was making advances; he simply complimented the woman on her appearance.

It wasn't simply a compliment that he was giving her though. The way he said it was borderline creepy. Actually, I'd say it's sexual harassment. If he wanted to give her a true, non-creepy compliment, he could have something like "That's a nice shirt."...or something idk. I'm terrible at making up compliments on the fly.

People overreact so much with the sexual harassment. Yes it's ******* uncomfortable if your boss says that, but it's also uncomfortable to be around a person who's boobs are practically falling out of her shirt. Why isn't she sexually harassing other people in the office by inappropriately displaying herself sexually? If you are catched looking, you are a creep, but as someone totally not interested in boobs (as a hetereosexual female), it's pretty damn hard not to look if they are inappropriately on display. Also, can you seriously tell me that if he didn't make a creepy comment but told her in an official way that what she was wearing was inappropriate, there wouldn't be an (smaller) outrage aswell? The woman-aren't nuns arguments? We don't have to hide away because other people look, etc. If she dressed inappropriately the CEO was ****** either way. FML or YDI depends totally on what she was actually wearing TO WORK.

@45- So you "assume" she bought the shirt because she "wanted men to look at her"? While I agree that appropriate dress should be a given in any workplace, we don't know what her cup size is, if her shirt shifted its position without her noticing- hell, she could have lost a button during her shift. All women have boobs. We can't help that we have lumps sticking out of our chests at all times. Women with larger breasts are constantly gawked at because they still have cleavage in even high cut tops and minimizer bras- which is out of their control. Yet guys are allowed to run around in the summertime with their nipples hanging out and it's considered so normal they blend right in. Men can CHOOSE not to look. If he can't make that choice, he needs to work on his self control. The problem is that society sexualizes women with every single chance they get. Men are sexualized too in the media, but not nearly as much as women. Maybe if people began looking as women as people instead of sex objects sexual harassment wouldn't be such an issue- nor would tops that show that (OMG!)- boobs exist and we can't help having them.

I agree with you except for the "he has a choice". I am a heterosexual female and yet sometimes I can't help but look because of what the woman is wearing. It's like a car wreck you just have to look. If they are presenting their breasts to the world and not covering them up then it's not 100% the other people's fault for looking.

@63 If woman wear 'tops that show that (OMG!)- boobs exist', then they should be able to handle people that 'notice that (OMG!)- boobs exist'. As a big-breasted woman I can see your point if that's the situation, but I doubt it is. People that annoy me with their dress-style aren't other big-breasted woman who usually are way more careful with their wardrobe so that malfunctions don't happen. The people that annoy me are smaller-chested woman who wear super-cuts that might look decent when they stand up but show off everything when they bend over. Don't bend or don't wear it to work.

You have no idea what she was actually wearing, though. "I can see your boobs" doesn't necessarily mean "I can see down your shirt". Having a professional but tight shirt could garner the same comment from somebody who wants an excuse to make inappropriate comments to a female subordinate.