Has anyone thought maybe he just got overly nervous on his first time? OP, you pushed your boyfriend into something and probably weren't the most patient person when it came to his first time. Maybe if you had enough experience to help turn him on and know not to put so much pressure on him to perform, well, maybe he wouldn't have freaked out & got a total mental block. The guys here keep saying they're always ready, but every guy I know has had trouble getting it up/keeping it up/getting finished at least once (even in the younger years) due to nerves, stress, anxiety, alcohol, inexperience, etc. You need to be patient with him and wait until you're both ready.

Op - I feel like I'm stating the obvious but if he doesn't want to have sex with you (that is if you're both old enough) and he doesn't get hard when about to engage in sex with you, then he likely is not attracted to women and may be gay. Or it's quite possible that he's just not attracted to either gender. Some people simply have no interest in sex.

Maybe that's why he didn't wanna have sex for so long cause maybe he can't get hard? And how old are you that your ****** needs to be lubed?!

You hav to persuade him!? there is something wrong with him...

He's gay or you are really fat and/or ugly.

isnt he supposed to coaxing u not u him

Every teenage guy is a sex hound, that's a fact.

Wanna go out sometime?

Let me help u out

Okay. My first boyfriend and I tried to have sex and failed. I was 14, he was 15 or 16. He was a horny guy and very much wanted sex. However, he was also religious and at that time a big part of him wanted to wait until marriage. So, it didn't happen because his religious self beat his horny self which was ok. He is now married to someone else with a child. Not gay. Both glad we didn't do it. We were too young. So no, teenage boy does not always = sex with everything at the drop of a hat. Morals (religious or otherwise)sometimes intervene. You know, the whole "right and wrong, I'm not comfortable with this" thing. The voice in your head (not the one in your pants) that says "bad idea." Instead of letting it be okay that her boyfriend didn't want to have sex yet, OP 'coaxed' him to do it, and he floundered under the pressure. She then posted about it on the Internet. All around pretty trashy. I'm siding with the guy here. He should cut her loose, this sounds like the makings of a toxic relationship.