By joco4 - 15/01/2016 18:00 - United States - Mobile

Today, after being in a committed relationship for five years, I just found out that my girlfriend's parents have no idea that we are together. She says she "forgot" to tell them. FML
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joco4 tells us more.

joco4 27

OP here. First of all, thanks everyone for commenting and everything, a lot of your comments were very helpful! Some clarification, we have talked about it before, and yes, I have met her parents as well as a lot of her family. Also, she has met my parents and family, and they know that we are together. The reason she has not told them has nothing to do with religion or because she is embarrassed by me. When we first started dating, she asked her parents what they would think if we started dating, and they effectively said "it would disgrace their family," so she just told them that we would not date, and since then, it seems that the topic hasn't come up with them again. The reason this whole topic came up is because, when her parents would call her, they would always talk about one of her exes, and how he was doing, (basically hinting that they wanted that relationship to happen again). After that happened a few times, I asked her about it, and she informed me that they actually didn't know about us being together. Her parents always comment on how nice I am, and how I am a good person. The problem with her parents is that they live in the past. Even though it is currently 2016, her parents can't accept a relationship where I happen to be black, and she happens to be white. As far as her parents are concerned, I am just her friend that happens to hang out with her a lot, as for everyone else, we are very happily in a relationship. Her parents and some of her family are the only people who are out of the loop. So, at this point, we are just not worrying about them and they will find out on a later date. I would like them to know eventually, but it just seems like that wont happen anytime soon. Feel free to leave comments if you want to know anything else!

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Top comments

nesssy 16

That's weird. I wonder how it took you 5 years to find out tho.

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MrScootyPuffSr 16

As a rule, if either person is embarrassed to show off the other, it's not a healthy relationship. Sorry you found out that way OP.

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Comments

LalapaloozaChick 14

sounds like she may be ashamed of you in some way because her parents may not approve of you. you should really find out why she didnt tell them because no one "forgets" to mention who they've been dating for 5 years.

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tosdyke 16

...well, until now, we didn't know either!

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zeffra13 31

Ok, this is probably a coincidence, but a few days ago the advice column in the newspaper ran a letter from a woman saying she was afraid to tell her parents about her 5-year relationship. It was because they're Muslim and he's Christian, and if they knew about it she would be ex-communicated and never be able to speak to them again, even though neither she nor her bf is particularly religious.

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zeffra13 31

She also had a rule of never talking to her parents about relationships because they would freak out. Her dad said he wouldn't be able to control himself if he found out she so much as hugged a boy.

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anonymoussqueak 16

You haven't been around her and her family? FYL because she can't even tell her parents, YDI because you never talked to her parents about dating her.

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ko051598 20

That's not something you forget to tell your parents..

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plan_Z 14

Actually my last relationship of 2 years and counting I never told my family about. I see no point in telling them. I m not close to them so why the fanfare for something they don't care about?

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Bragi 12

@34: That's not forgetting, that's indifference. Also, I think OP is expecting permanent, not an extended fling as you described.

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bonermonkey 31

You don't 'forget' something like that. Although presumably this means you haven't met them or anything, in which case why didn't you question having not met them a long time ago?!

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xxxxqazwsxedc1 8

Something doesn't sound right about this. You mean after 5 years of dating neither one of you met the other parents? Like if so, she pretended if you guys were friends? I need a follow up.

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lantz4levi 19

Something is telling me there might be somebody else she is bringing home because depending the age and no matter what you look like your bound to have a relationship somewhere along the lines and I feel her parents would start to question her if she hadn't brought anybody home or questioned her where she was going all the time

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stangbang92 17

Um just saying the way I was taught to do it is ask her parents to date her eliminating that problem... It makes asking to marry a lot easier too.

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flyingflies 36

Let's not be so narrow minded, please. Why would the happiness of one person be determined by the opinions of others?

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StickyPickles 33

I really find it strange that you wouldn't have asked to meet them even if after a couple years. Seems to be something that people just do, you know meet the folks, idk maybe I'm the oddball here. . .

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