By joco4 - 15/01/2016 18:00 - United States - Mobile

Today, after being in a committed relationship for five years, I just found out that my girlfriend's parents have no idea that we are together. She says she "forgot" to tell them. FML
I agree, your life sucks 23 031
You deserved it 1 929

joco4 tells us more.

joco4 27

OP here. First of all, thanks everyone for commenting and everything, a lot of your comments were very helpful! Some clarification, we have talked about it before, and yes, I have met her parents as well as a lot of her family. Also, she has met my parents and family, and they know that we are together. The reason she has not told them has nothing to do with religion or because she is embarrassed by me. When we first started dating, she asked her parents what they would think if we started dating, and they effectively said "it would disgrace their family," so she just told them that we would not date, and since then, it seems that the topic hasn't come up with them again. The reason this whole topic came up is because, when her parents would call her, they would always talk about one of her exes, and how he was doing, (basically hinting that they wanted that relationship to happen again). After that happened a few times, I asked her about it, and she informed me that they actually didn't know about us being together. Her parents always comment on how nice I am, and how I am a good person. The problem with her parents is that they live in the past. Even though it is currently 2016, her parents can't accept a relationship where I happen to be black, and she happens to be white. As far as her parents are concerned, I am just her friend that happens to hang out with her a lot, as for everyone else, we are very happily in a relationship. Her parents and some of her family are the only people who are out of the loop. So, at this point, we are just not worrying about them and they will find out on a later date. I would like them to know eventually, but it just seems like that wont happen anytime soon. Feel free to leave comments if you want to know anything else!

Top comments

That's weird. I wonder how it took you 5 years to find out tho.

As a rule, if either person is embarrassed to show off the other, it's not a healthy relationship. Sorry you found out that way OP.

Comments

I've been in a relationship like that. Get out while you still can OP. It's not worth it.

How could you have never met or talked to them in some way after that long? That's surprising.

oldie_goldie 13

You will need a lot of grit and determination to follow this relationship through. In my experience, parents on either side being against the relationship is a dealbreaker. Even if you get along with the girl, the parents will work against you in subtle ways in the long run. Imho you have been in the relationship long enough to know if she is worth the trouble of dealing with the family. I wish you the best of luck.

silverbane27 13

Haven't spent time with her family after five years?

You guys have been in a relationship long enough that they should have atleast known or had an idea of it. I bet it feels pretty horrible.