While it's nice that he's not being a dick about the lack of sex, he seems to neither care nor understand that she's actually feeling worse about not being able to go down on her. He seems more concerned with reciprocation than the fact that she's going crazy.

*him

If he doesn't want to he doesn't have to.

I never said otherwise. Nowhere does my post imply either party has to have sex with the other. I just think his explanation is contradictory; simply declining would've sufficed.

Your post implied that because he didn't want to means he doesn't care, with is quite an invalid implication to make.

Yes, it's quite an invalid Implication to make… because I never actually implied that. #1 said that he seemed understanding and caring. He might be; I don't know. What I do know is that she'd rather go down on her boyfriend and doesn't need reciprocation, and he clearly doesn't understand /that/. If he did understand and still declined, that'd be fine too. I'm saying there's no evidence that turning down a ******* makes him caring or understanding. Maybe he is, but this doesn't demonstrate it.

There's no evidence that OP's boyfriend declining implied he didn't care nor he didn't understand making your post invalid.

Just tell him to buy you chocolates or cook dinner to reciprocate. Reciprocity doesn't always need to be sexual, especially when you can't actually receive.

But there's no evidence the other way, either. Either one could be right. I took it the same, in that he was more worried about reciprocation.

exactly

He may be caring - but he's clearly not very understanding. Denying your partner something they want to do for you because of your own ideals isn't really meeting their needs.

He doesn't want a BJ because he feels he can't reciprocate, and he has decided that isn't something he wants. He's not obligated to agree to one just because she wants it. It's the same if he was demanding one because she can't have sex. She doesn't have to give one, and he doesn't have to receive one. Simple as.

Yes. Of course this is coming from a guy

or maybe he's a guy who doesn't wanna have sex

There's not enough context. If OP had a surgery that required 4-6, even 8 weeks recovery time, then they can't/won't want to have insertion sex for that length of time, so it's understandable that they can't/won't relax about this. OP says they can't have sex for two weeks, but that can always change. They may go back to the doctor and the doctor may say 'stay away from sex for another 2 or so weeks'. And plus I don't think rubbing one out will help in this case.

"Insertion sex." Haha wow.

shit man, I spend quite bit of time on tumblr and they're get pretty butthurt about everything so I just pretty much assumed the rest of the internet is like that. so here's my revision: man, I think you're an asshole because there's not enough context. op can't be ****** at the moment which she finds awful. maybe y'all need to get some yourselves.

^ sex isn't that important. it's not a need.

that's true, look at asexuals. just have a bit of sympathy.

Somebody finally said it!!!!