By DesperateToBeDad - 31/12/2015 11:57 - United Kingdom - Gravenhurst

Today, after trying unsuccessfully for three or so years to have a baby with my wife, my broodiness has gotten so bad that when I saw a couple with their daughter at the bus stop, I briefly had a daydream where I shot them in the head and took their daughter home to raise as my own. FML
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OP here. Wow, wasn't expecting so many comments! I feel I should probably clarify a few things here: First of all, I have a very vivid imagination and tend to have involuntary daydreams where various scenarios to a situation play out. This was one such case, and doesn't mean I'm violent or am actually contemplating shooting people or anything like that, my mind just rollercoasters through various things happening and I'm just sort of along for the ride. I found this one amusing enough to post on FML. My wife and I are currently looking into fertility tests to find out exactly what the problem is, and will of course consider adoption/fostering if it turns out that natural conception isn't on the cards. Don't worry, I'm not going to abduct anyone's kids or go on a murder spree. :P

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Maybe see a therapist op? Also, there's fertility clinics and treatments you can get to enhance your chances of having a kid. Best of luck!

Maybe think about trying adoption if at all possible. I wish you the best of luck OP with whatever you choose to do.

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From my understanding, if you are adopting from America it's very costly and time consuming.

If biology isn't a must have requirement, OP, maybe adoption is something you could consider? A lot of children need homes and there's certainly many out there who would love to have a family for the upcoming new year.

Also, maybe you and your wife are trying too hard. If it's taking this much of a toll on you, maybe book a relaxing weekend away for you both. It could set a romantic mood - but don't pressure yourself on getting pregnant each time you're together. See some specialists and try taking it easy. All that stress isn't helpful.

Look into adoption or foster-to-adopt. I'm sure there are babies out there in need of loving parents.

If you're still having trouble with fertility you can definitely still adopt! There are so many kids in need of loving families!

I'm sorry, it took me 6 years to get pregnant so I understand your emotions... Have you checked out her thyroid? I believe that is what my issue ended up being related to... And had I known that then, it might have been much sooner with help... Good luck ✿◠‿◠

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... Maybe the universe won't give you a kid because it knows you're unbalanced....

If only the universe worked that way. I see so many unbalanced parents out in the world who don't give a shit about their offspring, its heartbreaking when there are so many more deserving people that are unable to conceive.

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caryl101698 11

I had similar daydreams! My husband and I were in your shoes five years ago - if it's meant to be it will happen!